Creating Your Life / Working With Your Subconscious Mind.
Posted on January 21, 2016 by Jenny Young, One of Thousands of ADD ADHD Coaches on Noomii.
Noting what works and what doesn’t work
The subconscious mind is the part of your mind that is in charge of creating your life,creating the future. The conscious mind (the one reading this right now) can make a decision to want something or to change something, but without the cooperation of the subconscious mind it can’t get far. So it is helpful and I will say even imperative to work with the subconscious mind if you want to bring in more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.
One way to create your life the way you want is to note what is working (in your behavior) and what is not working. Simply noting what doesn’t work instead of dwelling on your mistakes helps you become aware of what not to repeat while keeping you from spinning down into a dark well of beating yourself up for the “mistake”. We often harp over and over about our mistakes and really all this does is put more attention, and energy into what we don’t want which in turn brings more of it into our lives.
Try instead to note the behavior as something that didn’t work so your subconscious knows for next time, pointing out how you’d like it to be different next time and then move on. Even a chuckle about how you got off track works better then berating yourself. The subconscious works much better with praise then punishment. We want to win the favor of our subconscious and guide it with love and humor so that it will do our bidding.
Noting what works is equally important. This sends the message to your subconscious that you would like more of that (whatever it may be). A pat on the back so to speak works wonders for getting the subconscious to do it again. I often take a moment at the end of the day to list the things I did that worked and didn’t work. It takes only a moment and is a simple way to communicate with my subconscious what directions to go in the future to create the life I want.
I’m mostly referring to our own behaviors, getting a report done on time, remembering to exercise, having a synchronistical, being in the right place at the right time experience, (yes it’s the subconscious that got you there). Things we like that happen because of another person’s behavior we can be thankful for but we are not in control of it in the same way.
When we note in a positive and non-judgmental way what works and what doesn’t work we set up a habit of communication with our subconscious that grows. Most of us have experienced wanting to change something and no matter how much we wish it, we get nowhere. That is because we didn’t team up with our subconscious. As an example, let’s say it is January and we want to loose 10 pounds. Our conscious mind has decided to diet and exercise to achieve this goal. The one that fights us on this is the subconscious mind. It is helpful to note when the diet is kept and the exercise is done. Yay! Give yourself (your subconscious) credit. And similarly when you oops and eat a cookie without thinking, just note that it doesn’t work, and next time choose a carrot instead. You might even add that it is only until you loose the ten pounds. Cookies are not off the table for the rest of your life.
The most important thing is to communicate with our subconscious in a way that is positive and builds trust. The kind of person who puts other people down in their own head or directly, is most likely doing that to that to him or herself as well. This habit is not going to help build trust. Watch what you do and begin to shift to a positive communication habit. It takes time but you will be amazed at how it will change your life.
Jenny Young jennyyoungjadecoaching.com
