Managing a New Year, expectations, anxiety and miscommunication
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…for anxiety, self-doubt and miscommunication. The New Year represents so much in terms of new beginnings, letting go of the old, and goal setting – which is great, except it can also leave you feeling overwhelmed, emotional and extremely vulnerable.
As we look back on the past 12 months, many of us are compelled to aim for bigger, better, brighter futures, new year’s resolutions have been a part of our society since the ancient Babylonians started them some 4,000 years ago. As humans it’s brilliant to set ourselves goals, coaching is an entire industry dedicated to just that, but the bit that often trips us up is the necessary companion that goes hand-in-hand with achieving them: vulnerability.
Brene Brown speaks a lot on this, and it inspired me to write about it since so many of us see our vulnerability as a weakness. But what if instead, it’s our greatest strength?
Those that allow themselves to be vulnerable allow themselves the space to change, grow and progress. You can’t change something if you don’t see any problem with it – and we can attach so much shame to wanting to change; in doing so we’re admitting an imperfection, which is perhaps the ultimate vulnerability.
Except, what if that vulnerability inspired not only our own self-growth, but also others’? What if in accepting and embracing the will to change we allowed someone else to do the same and change their lives? Well then surely, it would be the greatest gift we could offer?