The Art of Receiving - It's NOT about YOU!
Posted on September 05, 2021 by Brent Scarpo, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Giving and Receiving are important components in Careers, Relationships, Business and in Life - Receiving is by far the most important - Here's Why...
One of the tools, I share with my clients is the Art of Receiving. Most people on the planet are very good “Givers”, but when it comes to “Receiving”, that becomes more difficult.
“Giving” allows us a sense of Pride, Importance, a sense of making someone feel special and loved. As human beings, it is important that we master both the Art of Giving and Receiving, but especially Receiving.
When I was an young actor, going to acting school, I had just finished my exam plays and Diana, a classmate of mine ran into me and thanked me for helping her through part of the exams and said, “I would love to take you out to lunch, my treat.”
Playing the manly man, I said, “Thank you, but I could not allow you do that.” I was raised that a man pays for a woman’s lunch, not the other way around.
Diana continued to insist that she wanted to take me to lunch and I continued to say, “No”, when finally our conversation got heated. She stared at me and said, “Why are you taking my Joy away by not letting me take you out to lunch and why do you think this is about you?”
As she uttered these words, I was both STUNNED and SHOCKED. I never thought that by denying her request that I would be taking something away from her, especially any JOY.
That moment changed my life and I realized how important “Receiving” was and my difficulty in mastering that talent. Over time, I have learned to say, “Yes” to those who want to GIVE to me, as it is truly not about me and MORE about them.
