Date Nights Can Save Your Marriage/Relationship From Being In a Rut
Posted on September 04, 2021 by Brent Scarpo, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How to make your Fun and Exciting instead of it turing into a RUT! The solution: DATE NIGHT! 5 Tips on Successful Date Nights with those you LOVE.
As a Life Coach, I am constantly hearing from my clients that their marriage and/or dating relationship has turned into a RUT! This is very common with my fantastic Millennials and those that have been in a long term relationships with the same partner.
What’s the answer to “Shake It UP” a bit?
Answer: Date Night
You might be doing Date Nights already, but are you doing them correctly?
Here are my suggestions:
Date Night Guidelines:
Non-negotiable. Choose a night that is YOUR NIGHT. Let your circle of friends know that you are not available on Wednesday, as it is Date Night. If one of you is asked by someone to break Date Night, kindly tell them that they need to reschedule for a different day and time. Yes, there is an odd exception, but this is EMERGENCY ONLY and typically involves both of you.
What NOT to do on Date Night. Date night is not a time to discuss the children, or work related problems, or how the world is falling apart. It is a time to enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other more intimately. It is Light, Romantic and Loving.
Take turns planning. Take turns planning Date Night. This leads to more fun and can be very adventurous. Plan something with your partner in mind, which can be very romantic and other times, plan what you like. Whatever the Date Night, embrace it lovingly.
Date Night is Mandatory. If the babysitter cancels or you can’t get a babysitter, there are plenty of activities to do at home when the children are put to bed. Play a board game or watch a movie. If there is no money in the budget for a date, take a picnic to the park, go for a long drive, visit romantic spots you share memories together, have a sleep over in the backyard tent, or make supper together in the kitchen after the kids are asleep.
Have Fun. Life is stressful and unpredictable and Date Night is your ROCK. Make these date nights something to look forward to. They don’t have to be spectacular. Just walking together hand-in-hand or swinging at a playground while you talk about your hopes and dreams can make for a pretty memorable night. Keep the Date Night soft and light. Cherish each other. It’s okay if you just go to a movie or dinner most of the time, but incorporate activities that allow you to talk to each other and share each other’s loving space.
