3 Tips To Transform Your Pity Party Into A Power Party
Posted on February 29, 2020 by Cheryl Bridges, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Be the BEST version of yourself you can be. Turn PITY into POWER.
3 Tips to Transform Your Pity Party into a Power Party!!!
We’ve all been to a pity party at some point in our lives. More than likely, you were the host! Sometimes, life has a way of knocking us down and it feels almost impossible to get up. That’s ok, it’s understandable. But take caution not to hang out at this party too long!
If you’ve never invited yourself to a pity party, kudos to you! But, there are many whom have attended these parties and they’ve lasted days, weeks or even months! So, what exactly is this pity party all about? Well, I’m glad you asked. It’s an excessive and unproductive way of experiencing shame, regret or failure, in which you spend all of your time feeling sorry for yourself and complaining excessively about your current life situation, without ever attempting to do anything about it.
Some symptoms of a pity party include continual feelings of sadness, anger or frustration. It also may involve persistent low self-esteem, feeling lethargic and unmotivated and even watching too much television and lots of day-time sleeping. Excessive negative self-talk and complaining seem to be at the top of the list.
Unfortunately, these symptoms can cause difficulties in relationships as those around you may pick up on the negative vibes and begin to feel bad about themselves. The pity party then continues to grow.
Here are 3 ways you can exit your pity party and invite yourself (and others) to your very own power party!
1)Acknowledge and Accept Your Thoughts and Beliefs:
One way to begin the exodus from your pity party is to become more aware of how your thoughts and beliefs impact your mood and behavior. If you realize negative self-talk has become a habit, it’s time to adjust those beliefs and self-talk so that they are more truthful, positive and optimistic. Start viewing obstacles as opportunities for growth rather than roadblocks.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
2)Affirm Who You Are:
It’s important to understand who you are (and whose you are) so you can envision who you want to become (and who God would have you to be). Affirmations, which are statements said with confidence about a perceived truth, can be powerful in helping you change your mood, thought pattern or state of mind. Positive affirmations, such as, “I am worthy”, “I am productive” and “I am blessed” can help you transform pity into power. Speaking the affirmations out loud on a daily basis or even writing them out in a journal will allow you to reinforce these new beliefs.
“By the grace of God, I am what I am.” 2 Corinthians 25:10
3)Aspire to Achieve:
Now that you’ve acknowledged your thoughts and affirmed who you are, it’s time to achieve! It’s time to cancel your RSVP to the pity party! It’s important to set aside negative self-talk, fear and self-pity and to replace those emotions with positivity, productivity and power. Taking more responsibility for your life and where it’s heading will lead you in the right direction. An anonymous writer once said, “When you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.”
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
