How To Get What You Want In Life
Posted on February 26, 2020 by Ayobami Abiodun, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
What do you want? If you don’t know what you want, how can you set goals for your life? And without goals to accomplish, how can you be successful?
Success simply means getting what you want, so the big question is how will you get what you want in life?
The richest person in the country decided to organize a program to help startup in his country. The opportunity was opened to only 50 startup owners. The first 50 entrepreneurs will be funded. A young man got to the exclusive hotel where the program is going to take place. He started climbing the stairs but saw that nobody was climbing the stairs with him. When he had climbed up the stairs, he saw a hallway. From the hallway, he looked down and saw many people following a path so he decided to get down the stairs and follow others.
The people he saw were actually walking towards the elevator. There were a couple of people already waiting to use the elevator and he joined them. After waiting for some minutes, he got to enter the elevator and it took them to the floor they were going to. When he got out of the elevator, he saw that it was the same hallway he has been to 10 minutes ago. He walked down the hall, and just when he got to the meeting room entrance, the door got shut automatically. The meeting room already had 50 startup owners seated and can’t accommodate anyone again.
Do you want to be successful? These are 7 steps on how to get what you want in life. You can achieve anything if you follow these 7 steps.
1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:
The young man in the story above lost the opportunity because he didn’t know what he wanted. If he had looked at the invite, he would have seen the floor number and know where exactly he was going to. For you to achieve success, you must know what you want. You have to know where you are going in life. Every destination isn’t your own destination.
Stop guessing what you want in life! Many people are wandering aimlessly on earth already. If you want to be successful in life, then decide what exactly you want in life. Ask yourself “What do I want in life?”
If you don’t know what you want, how can you set goals for your life? And without goals to accomplish, there won’t be any success to achieve. You can’t go on living your life without having any clue of what you want. What is your dream? Stop following the general dream (go to school, get a job, get married and die). It’s time to define your dream specifically.2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:
You must learn how to stand alone. Becoming successful requires a great deal of believing in yourself. You have to erase the ‘what if’ mindset. There is no point to keep thinking ‘what if’ because it’s absolutely a waste of time. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow and the only way to find out is if you decide to do something now.
What you believe will influence your thought. Therefore, I want you to always believe that success is not a choice; it’s a necessity for you. You don’t have to ask the question “will I be successful?” You should have the assurance of “I will be successful.”
Deciding what you want for yourself will motivate you to believe in yourself. When you believe in yourself, it won’t matter to you if you are the only one climbing the stairs because you already know where exactly you are going to. Believing in yourself will boost your confidence to pursue your goals.
3. FOLLOW YOUR PUREST INTUITION:
After you have figured out what you want and you believe in yourself, the next step is to follow your intuition. Always turn to your mind for answers and direction to your path. If you know or feel something deep down within you, don’t let anybody talk you out of it. For example, you know deep down that you should design an app that gives people notification of the time to urinate or poop even before their body gives out any sign. Of course, many people will tell you that it’s impossible. Yeah, it might seem impossible, but don’t ever let anyone talk you out of your intuition.
Years ago, people told the Wright brothers who invented the first successful aeroplane that it’s impossible to fly. But they didn’t let anyone’s unbelief or doubt to stop them. Learn to always follow your intuition. If you feel strongly about it, then do it. That’s how to be successful in life.
Always make time to connect with your inner self. Pay attention to your feelings, meditate often and listen to your instincts. Let your intuition help you with decision making.
4. TAKE ACTION:
It is not enough to know what you want in life; you have to take action to get what you want. Learn how to work hard and work smart. Make an action plan by ask yourself “How will I achieve the things I want to want to get?” Figuring how to get what you want will help you create an effective action plan and help you manage your time.
Think of ways to be successful with your action plan. And then have alternatives to your approach so that if one way isn’t working (perhaps, under construction), you can follow the other way. There are one thousand and one ways to achieve a goal. All you need is flexibility and the readiness to do whatever it will take to be successful in life.
You don’t have to feel stuck in your plan. If the weather is bad to fly, take the road. And if the road is bad, take the waterway. Don’t let anything hinder you from getting what you want in life.
5. THINK POSITIVELY:
When you have goal or purpose, always know that you will face challenges too. The challenges are the indication that you are on the right path towards achieving your goals and becoming successful. If you want success, learn to think positively.
At times, you might find yourself in the dark moment, but don’t let it define you. Even in the dark, tell yourself you will be the moon to shine through the darkness. Always practice positive affirmations. It’s all about programming your mind to think positively. Don’t let doubts set in because it will kill your confidence and drain your strength to pursue after what you want.
6. BE FOCUSED:
To be successful, you have to be focused. You can’t afford losing focus because you don’t know when success will hit.
Firstly, be self-assured that you will be successful in life, and never doubt your ability to achieve success. Don’t follow anyone’s path; stay on your own path. The young man in the above story I told you lost focus and he paid dearly for it. If only he had looked ahead, he would have seen the meeting room and realize that he’s already in the right hallway. He wouldn’t have abandoned his own path by going down the staircase, just to follow others to take the elevator to the same place he was coming from.
Yes, at times, you will have the urge to follow others’ path because it would seem like it’s the happening path. But don’t be deceived! It’s not about the number of people following a path; it’s about the destination of the path. Stay true to yourself. Always look ahead, as you take each step at the moment. Don’t waste your time following some else’s path because the time lost cannot be regained. If you want to know how to be successful in life, first learn how to be focused on your goals.
7. STAY GRATEFUL:
Gratitude is the greatest virtue. Be grateful for where you are and the little accomplishments you’ve made. Gratitude will rejuvenate your spirit and improve your mood. This will, in turn, influence your attitude and perspective. It will help you to develop the right attitude to be successful.
Never stop being grateful because there is always something to be thankful for. You might not have what you want yet, but be grateful that you are already working towards it and be optimistic that you will get it.
WORKSHEET ON HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
These are 18 powerful questions to ask yourself. Write down your answers and start working towards achieving your goals.
1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?
2. If I have no limitation in life, what will I do and what will I have?
3. What are my goals in life?
4. What do I need now?
5. Whom do I admire most in the world and why?
6. What do I not like to do?
7. How far am I willing to go to get what I want?
8. If I am to picture my future self, what would my ideal life look like?
9. What makes me truly happy?
10. Who are the people I want to be around with?
11. What am I willing to make the sacrifice for?
12. What would I stand for, if no one would judge me?
13. What will I do if I have millions of dollars?
14. If I have absolutely no fears, what will I do?
15. If I am to die today, what is the one thing I will do?
16. What would I wish for someone I love?
17. What energizes and inspires me?
18. What are my greatest accomplishments so far?
