Am I Perfect?
Posted on December 24, 2019 by Carla James, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How to break the neverending pursuit of 'perfect.'
Am I Perfect?
Short answer; HECK NO.
You see there’s this weird and pervasive idea wafting around ‘out there’ like a fart that no-one wants to take ownership of, that we’re all ‘supposed’ to be perfect…and it’s nonsense. Like a fart, it also stinks.
As it’s the time of year when many are rushing about wondering whether or not green or red napkins would be ‘perfect’ and how to fold them ‘perfectly’ so as not to ‘disappoint’ or ‘let anyone down’ or so we don’t ‘feel a failure’…can you see where I’m going with this yet?
That’s the thing about perfectionism, it’s a spirit crushing descent into misery, wholly unattainable, completely unreasonable and usually results in burn out. Yeah, I know you’re going to say, ”but it’s the festive season and I JUST WANT IT TO BEEEEE PERFECT.” If you’re honest though, I’ll betcha the last chocolate in the box that you have similarly mind and body exhausting episodes of ‘perfectionism’ throughout the year too, which when not attained results in a self-created-sob-fest of ”I’m a FAILURE.”
Now let’s get really horribly deep into the stinky bowels of this ‘perfectionism’ thing. Have you ever been around another human being who demands perfection from you? Oh jeepers, that’s real fun isn’t it…NOT. Nothing you ever do is ‘right’ or ‘good enough’ and generally speaking, we’d all rather stick a cocktail stick under our big toenail and kick the wall real hard than put up with it, so why do you impose it upon yourselves? The answer is usually from some faulty thinking habit we’ve developed or learned from somewhere, and the good news is that anything that is thought or learning based can be changed to something more life-enhancing and adaptive.
So, don’t go nuts running yourself ragged and battering your own mind, body and spirit into a mushy and somewhat unappetising pulp while thinking ”I hope my mashed potatoes don’t turn out like me at the dinner table over the holidays” as it’s time to embrace the following belief:
I AM A PEFECTLY IMPERFECT HUMAN BEING AND THAT’S WHAT I ASPIRE TO BE MORE OF.
Am I the ‘perfect’ life-coach? Nope. Do I do my best with the skills I’ve got? YEP. Do I have control over how your life turns out all magical and stuff? NOPE. Would I want to have control over anyone but myself? NOPE. Does this make me a failure? NOPE. Does this make me just another perfectly imperfect human being? YEP.
It also makes for a very HAPPY human being.
