Warriors: how to stop the fight?

Posted on November 21, 2019 by Nermine N, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

How to stop fighting?

Can we unlearn to be strong as we learned to become strong? And why do it?

Being strong is an asset, isn’t it?

Only if you receive what you want from life. So, do you?…

If the answer is yes, then your strength is working FOR you.

If not, it is working against you.

Often, a warrior’s life is not a peaceful one…

Warriors are strong, used to fight, even if they don’t have to, they can take all the causes of the world on their shoulders and succeed. They are often seen as the ones that do not need anything from others, because a warrior does not show his/her wounds, they tend to bandage them in loneliness, burry their sorrow behind closed doors and swallow their tears…

They fight to get a better job, a greater income, a partner in life, a bigger house, a nicer body…

All of this takes a lot of practice, while a warrior looks at other people’s simple life and wonder if he/ she will ever be able to settle for this.

Warriors long for it and, at the same time, fear it. They are used to a certain level of challenge, difficulty, and even fear in their lives.

I think there is a big difference between being a fighter and looking for fights.

One can practice the wisdom of avoidance: “what” and, more importantly “who”, is not worth fighting for, just drop it.

One can also practice the wisdom of self-service: where I do not get, at the end of the fight, what I truly need, desire and long for, even if I have nothing else to do in the world right now, drop it as well!

But warriors also long for the expansion and self growth that come along the new challenges of their life, and this is why they tend to accept all kinds of missions.

Fair enough, but one can take on these challenges with inner weapons and an attitude of “I have to go for it and get it over with”, which, by the way, often comes from an inner place of insecurity and high peaks of stress (because the nervous system is always alert, even in situations of peace, out of habit and intense training from life).

Or, one can take on these challenges with open, loving arms, trusting that this is not going to be another fight, that it does not have to be one, but just a smooth process of growth and learning with our fellow, well intentioned humans.

Well intentioned! Yes!

No one to beat, no one to protect ourselves from, no need to be defensive…just dropping ones’ arms towards the earth and…surrender.

Look at lions for this. They are supposed to be the strongest and most respected creatures of the jungle and nevertheless, they spend a lot of their time sleeping.

They get all their focus, strength and attention, only when it is time to hunt, defend their territory, or protect their tribe.

Also, a warrior is often lonely.

They tend to avoid groups because they can relate to them only in terms of being the “responsible ones”, and the “strongest ones”.

Again, fair enough, cause they probably are.

So, to stop being a warrior every single minute of every single day, warriors can: – drop the responsibility of others (consciously, family members, or people who deserve our love and worry are, of course, not in this group). – surround themselves (specially women warriors), with stronger people than them.- show their vulnerability only when it can be received and appreciated and never turned as a weapon against them (for warriors stopped doing this because of what happened to them when they did!)

In other words, warriors will always be strong, but if they can treat this strength as the amazing and rare gift that it is, and that they have acquired through, long and intense struggle, they will be able to appreciate themselves, which is extremely important.

And not only that, but also show it, use it and “take it out” exclusively for the noble causes of THEIR choice.

The only difficulty here is that warriors do not know what to do during “vacation time”, apart from sharpening their spear…

Well, strength is an energy, that can be focused in many ways.

They just need to be creative and keep themselves busy to the point to get exhausted…

That is the part that is the most difficult….dear warriors…but relaxation does not have to be boredom.

One can spread that intense energy into millions of things to BE or do!

Just think…