A MANs’ RIGHT

Posted on November 12, 2019 by Amirah K, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Do not deprive your husband from the right to take care of you!

Many women these days work and have their own money and can afford to buy whatever they want themselves…
Even though it is good for the woman to work if she wants, it is very important that she still asks her husband for financial support and presents.
Why is this so important? If she becomes responsible and able to do everything by herself, sooner or later her husband will give up the competition with her and she will end up being the man and the woman in the marriage.
It is very possible that he will fall into depression and/or not see the necessity to even work …I have seen many such cases. After some time the woman is doing so well, that her husband gives up and becomes a couch potato and the woman is so unhappy that the fights start….but she cannot see that she has brought it herself.
So what is the solution if we want to work and have a husband who keeps working and does not see us as competition?
It is actually quite easy…we go by the old rule, that the husband’s money is the family’s money, whereas what the woman earns is for herself. And you stick to it, even if there isn’t enough money for the bills, you stick to it.
The formula is quite simple, the more you spend, the more your husband will make, the less you spend and the stingier you are, lesser motivated he will be to work more or to find different ways to make more money.
Our men have as much money as we ask of them and as we can take. And for the man it is important to give to his wife and to receive in return her gratitude and happiness. This is a very important exchange in every marriage. Than he can get up from the couch and go and kill the mammoth!
There could be two reasons why the man would not want to get up from the couch (and I was once guilty of both):
- We cannot motivate him in the right way, do not encourage him and appreciate him. We simply do not trust his abilities.
- We do not ask enough of him and cannot ask in a feminine manner, so he can feel compelled to take care of us.
If a woman wants her husband to be successful and prosperous, she should regard him as a fighter, as a man who can do things, who can accomplish! We often make the mistake and crash our husbands, with our words, with our attitudes with our “betterness”. Instead to give them wings and regard them as capable and ever better than us in something we do the opposite.
So how to give the man that right, he was born with and hopefully raised with, the right to take care of us?
I am giving away FREE 30 minutes sessions for woman on this or any other topic mentioned on my page, so get in touch and let’s find the best solution to your situation.

With love,

Amirah