The Energy of NO
Posted on January 18, 2010 by Kimberly Brenner, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
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The Energy of NO
Have you ever been around a two year old? Some people call it the Terrible Twos because children at that age are constantly saying “NO”. They aren’t doing this to annoy us, even if that’s the result. It’s meant as a way to stop energy flow. At two a child is beginning to process what information they have already received and they are trying to regulate the stimulus they are getting by saying “NO”. And you thought it was just a way to control us. In some ways they are trying to control us, to tell us to stop talking to them, to stop asking them to do something, to stop bothering them. It’s their way of protecting themselves from becoming too overloaded with energy and to slow their world so they can process what they have.
The energy of “NO”, as a way to stop energy flow, is the reason why women have such a hard time saying it. Women are the conduits for energy flow and it feels wrong to stop it. The alternative to saying “NO” is to allow the energy to flow and to say, “YES”. However women get overwhelmed with too much “YES”. When women add resistance or resentment their energy flow stops. They might as well be saying “NO”. And it is when women are not in charge of the flow and direction of the energy that they become like the Terrible Twos.
One way to direct the energy flow is to tell yourself “I Wanted to Do That” to everything that you do no matter what. I had an incident where I needed to lower my garage door manually. As I did I had two fingers inserted between the garage door slats and as the weight of the door gained momentum and came hurling down. As I watch my two fingers get smashed I quickly retrieved the door and pushed it up with my other hand but the damage was done. My response was to scream and cry to about 20 minutes but after that I just looked at my damaged fingers and said out loud “I Wanted to Do That”. I continued to tell myself this throughout the day and the day after. And would you believe those fingers healed in less than 36 hours. The rapid flow of energy throughout those damaged fingers was not stopped by resistance or resentment. I wasn’t getting angry over what happened, I wasn’t telling the universe “NO”, that shouldn’t have happened. I was being the female energy, allowing the energy to flow without resistance.
The next time you find yourself doing something or having to be somewhere that you don’t tell yourself “I Wanted To Do This” or “I Wanted to Be Here” and watch how your energy changes.
Kimberly Brenner LCSW, BCD
Intuitive psychotherapist and energy traveler
www.KimberlyBrenner.com
