Parts of Our World
Posted on July 30, 2019 by Rachel Pavlov, One of Thousands of Performance Coaches on Noomii.
Peace, acknowledgment, empowerment, and contentment. We have the power within us to change our circumstances and be renewed.
Everything you need is already inside of you. It’s true, you have the strength and power to change your circumstances, and you always have. However, there is a part of you that denies that inner strength and know-how. Each of us is made up of parts, not just our arms and legs, but our internal parts, our mental unit. Right now, my dedicated and motivated part is showing up to write this little blurb. However, earlier my lazy part had the floor. I didn’t feel like writing, I just wanted to listen to my podcast. My managerial part stepped in and helped me to put away the lazy and get some writing done, so, here I am. We all have these parts inside of us, each one needing a voice and acknowledgment. If we do not give our parts the attention they need we become unbalanced and at a war inside ourselves.
It is important to your internal peace to acknowledge your different parts, to give them space and a voice to be heard. If they do not “feel” heard those parts will be at unrest. What happens if a young child feels unheard or forced to do something he or she doesn’t want to do? A tantrum is likely. What do you think happens when a part is shut-down and put in a box? Eventually that part will be heard, and it may be messy or over the top. Think of self-care, if you never take care of your mental health you may find yourself so burnt out that you quit your job or you have to take weeks off. Maybe you didn’t give your tired and overwhelmed part a chance to rest and the part took over so you would listen.
The same is said for the parts of us that have been hurt and scared, if we don’t give those parts a voice we may try to shut them down with drinking or over eating, gambling and sex; anything to make us feel better so that we don’t have to deal with that part. Eventually that part will be heard with or without your consent. Those parts of us that have been hurt need a voice so they can heal and move forward. Acknowledging the pain, sitting with it, feeling what the part feels has the ability to give you your power back, to not be consumed by harmful activities.
When we make a choice to listen to our parts, to feel them, we need to also understand that we need new ways to soothe ourselves, having sex to feel better is no longer the go-to. Learning meditations, using mindfulness apps, breathing techniques, learning cognitive techniques and having a good support system is a great way to start the journey of listening to and healing the parts of ourselves that strive to voice their pain and discomfort. We can re-invent ourselves, find new passions, and new hobbies to try once our internal unit or family is no longer in constant conflict for attention. Anything worth having takes time. Learning new ways to sooth ourselves and heal from within takes time and effort and at times, guidance and support from others.
