"How to say sorry and mend the broken heart of your beloved"
Posted on May 05, 2019 by Julius Xavier, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
Are you in a relationship and have broken the heart of your beloved by your words or actions?
The most difficult task for a person with a broken heart is to stand still and go through the pain. Every relationship goes through its low phase. We all make mistakes and if you have hurt the feelings of your spouse, here are some handy and great ways to say sorry and help your partner come out of the pain:
Acknowledge the wrongful act: The first important step is to actually tell your partner that you are sorry. Though it may seem simple, actually saying the words ‘I’m sorry’ can make a huge difference and initiate the process of healing. You need to begin by saying” I was wrong and I am sincerely sorry’. There is no alternative for this admission and submission. Before you apologise, make sure you are accepting responsibility for whatever part you played in the argument. After which a simple statement with genuine feelings like ‘Can you please forgive me?’ will usually suffice.
Give a hug: It’s hard to stay mad when you hug someone. A hug can bridge emotional distances and help your partner to forgive and heal. Hugging is very beneficial to the health of a person and a couple, in good and bad times. Hugs have been proven to release those warm and fuzzy feelings and are important to let your partner know that they are important to you and you are helping them physically. A hug is a stress buster, promotes caring, draws in smiles and increases empathy.
Make a list, write a poem: Give the person a list of the top five reasons they are important to you. Add a note at the end explaining, “I told myself long time ago to remember these amazing things that make you special to me. I let you down when I forgot those today. Please forgive me.” Share things that you love about each other. Write or find a poem showing how you feel about the person outside this situation. Keep it simple and let your partner know you’ve struggled to find the right words beyond sorry, and the poem with better words tell how important you are to me.
Create a collage: Create an online collage of 10 photos of amazing places you’ve been together or fun experiences you have shared. Add a message to it, such as,’Nothing is more important than the magical moments you have given me.’ Compliments can act as a perk in healing and strengthening your relationship. Be generous and don’t sulk when it comes to complimenting your partner.
Make a donation: Make a donation to the other person’s favorite charity. Get a receipt of the donation, hand it to the other person and apologies by saying, ’I‘m sorry. I hope you accept my apology and see this action as mu attempt to move us back in the right direction.’
