4 keys that will unlock the door to a happy marriage
Posted on May 03, 2019 by Julius Xavier, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
Nobody is perfect and our fondest memories of anyone are of the amusing ways they proved it.
Every day we all prove that we’re full of flaws and quirks that our partners either fine endearing or annoying. Accepting our own flaws can be hard but it’s sometimes even harder to accept the flaws of our romantic partners. Accepting the limitations is the true test. Here are a few tips that will help you accept your partner’s shortcomings and habits to make your marriage happy
Avoid sarcasm and gossip: Being sarcastic about your spouse’s flaws can be very hurtful. Words can wound quite deeply and leave scars that could stay for years or may never be forgotten. Do not badmouth your spouse to relatives and friends. Your spouse and you’re a team and it’s unfair to let your team down.
Remember the good: It’s easy to get caught up in all of your partners annoying traits but you can’t forget about the good things. Think about the kind gestures, pleasant words, happy memories, right behaviour and other good traits often, especially when you are on the verge of being angry or upset with your spouse. Learn to put things in perspective. Accepting your partner’s quirks, flaws and habits can be a big task. You’re both two different people so learn to focus on what makes you unique and find the beauty in your differences. Celebrate the similarities and welcome the differences.
Accept responsibility: When there is a problem at home, do not lay all the blame on your spouse. Accept that you too have contributed to it and work together to resolve it and find a solution. If both of you stay stubborn on an issue, things can’t move forward, so a fair amount of compromise would be needed.
Self acceptance: Your partner isn’t the only person with flaws and quirks in this relationship. You have them too. Just as you have to adjust, so does your spouse. Sometimes the easiest way to start accepting your partner is to start accepting and acknowledging your own shortcomings.
Accepting your spouse does not mean resignation or submission. It means understanding that something is what it is and you can choose it and embrace it for what it is. The sooner you learn to accept the things in your spouse the happier you will be in your marriage
