How to get-over a hiccup in your couple relationship?
Posted on May 01, 2019 by Julius Xavier, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
Relationships are not meant to make you or your partner sad.
Is your relationship bogging you down instead of giving you happiness? Is your partner slightly upset with you? Are you both having a bad day?
Here are a few hacks for you to try to fix the issue
Stop nagging: If you feel the need to nag your spouse every day, hold it right there, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you and approach them from a place of concern and support instead of nitpicking every aspect of their life. That hardly ever helps; rather it could make the situation even stickier.
Get over needing to be right: A relationship is about being happy not about being right. Learning to say ‘I was wrong’ is a skill worth learning, especially in front of someone who you mean the world to. Instead of striving to prove yourself superior to your spouse, remember that you both are a team and act accordingly.
Tell them what they mean to you: You’ve been having a rough few weeks but you really want it to end. Keep your ego aside and approach your spouse with a smile. Make a list of ten things you really love about your spouse and tell him/her about those in great detail. It’ll really help your relationship and put a smile on your partners face. You’ll feel happy too.
Keep the happiness flowing: Pay attention to the tiny things that bother your partner and if it’s painless for you, work to change them. Nobody is asking to change your laugh or your style but if you know that your partner really hates it when you go to a particular place to eat, try to avoid going there next time. It’s easy and it makes their day better, so why not?
Small talk: Small talk leads to big happiness. For instance, never forget to ask about the other person’s day. It’s so easy to do . Other small talk that’ll make them happy include listening to them complain about something that bothered them today, about whether they ate, how well they slept. These seemingly insignificant details can mean a lot because they show you care.
Bad day procedure: Only one person gets to have the “bad day”. If your partner’s day was horrible and yours was just fine, let them have the pity and the choice of junk food. If it’s you, announce it early and let them know you need support. If it’s a toss-up, trade stories about why your day was so awful and you’ll end up laughing while figuring out who wins.
