How to keep Love alive in your marriage?

Posted on April 18, 2019 by Julius Xavier, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.

Being in love is a wonderful feeling and as enchanting as it can get.
It’s a rush, an excitement, a blooming love, carries immense happiness which cannot be described in its entirety.

All those in love have experienced the sleepless nights, the endless dreaming and some dreamy scenarios in our teenage days. Being in love is a state of bliss but staying in love is unique. The pleasure of knowing someone like they are a part of you and still enjoying every day with them like there’s more to discover every passing minute is a sign of an eternal bond which marks the end of the ever long search for true love.

Nobody is perfect and every day we all prove that we are full of flaws that our partners either find it endearing or annoying. Accepting our own flaws can be hard but it’s sometimes it’s even harder to accept the flaws of our romantic partner.

Now that you’re with the person you want to be with and you’re happy in that relationship, how do you keep nurturing your love over time? Here are few simple tips to keep love alive in your marriage

Continue dating each other: Dates aren’t exclusively for young lovers, they can be magic for couples who have been together for a while. Leaving the home provides a change of scenery and enlivens things for both partners. But occasionally staying home for a date can be fun too, you can dine by candlelight for instance. Consider making dates a regular feature of your relationship. They don’t have to be limited to a few hours on an occasional evening, they can last an entire day, weekend or longer.

Dream together: The key to keeping your love alive is in being together. Giving space to each other is important but it is necessary that you make a wish-list of things you want to do and tick them off with time, enjoy life as it comes, do not be in a hurry, explore each other and fulfil all your wishes together. A happy heart is content and tends to keep others happy too.

Practice the art of maturity: You’ve been together for a while now as husband and wife and it’s time for you to let go off the silly fights that persist, for they turn nasty, into bigger ones and prove to be a breaking point in life. For every human gets tired and so will your partner. To keep your love alive, remember to mature with your relationship, grow and respect your partner and accept them for who they are. That’s the most romantic thing ever and it helps to keep your love alive. Acceptance does not mean resignation. It simply means understanding that something is what it is and that you can choose to accept it for exactly what it is.

Encourage each other: A couple that encourages each other is a couple that lasts. Build the passion for work and career in your partner. Never let your partner get disheartened, always support each other, think big both at a couple and individual level, which will make the relationship exciting. You have to create what you want in your marriage. To be a good partner you need to be emotionally fit and shift from expecting something from your marriage to doing something for your marriage.

Plan surprises: Spontaneously planning something for your spouse makes a huge difference to your relationship. Plan a visit to a garden, a movie, a mall, a theatre show, a museum, to the place you first met, to your partner’s relatives or friends home. Surprise your spouse with an exotic ice-cream or favourite food item, a special gift, a bouquet of flowers. Surprise your partner by taking a day off and stay at home enjoying a special couple time. Such small gestures will brighten up you relationship.

Avoid sarcasm: Being sarcastic about your spouse’s flaws can be very hurtful. Words can wound quite deeply and leave scars that could stay for years or may never be forgotten. Do not bad mouth your spouse to relatives and friends. Your spouse and you are a team and it’s unfair to let your team-mate down. Also stop living in the past. This moment is the only thing that’s real. So avoid dwelling in the past or walking your partner often through a past story that is boring, sad and distasteful.

Remember and talk about the good: It’s easy to get caught up in all of your partners annoying traits but you can’t forget about the good things. Think about the good traits in your spouse and share it often with him or her, especially when you are in the midst of being annoyed with your spouse. Accept your partner’s quirks, flaws and habits. You are both two different people so learn to focus on what makes you unique and find the beauty in your differences.

Such few actions in love will help to maintain the spark in your couple love.