Reinventing Your Relationship To Your Career

Posted on January 21, 2019 by Emily Golden , One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

Are you unhappy in your job? Feeling stuck? Bored? Do you find yourself fantasizing about making a move?

Many of my clients answer “yes” to these questions when they come to me. It’s as if it’s fact that happiness and fulfillment are one job move away and with my support, they’ll get to their destination faster. While this may be the case, what I’ve found is that most people who are feeling stuck and bored in their current job have actually felt stuck and bored in their past job(s). This points to a breakdown in their relationship to their career and left unaddressed, the pattern of dissatisfaction will repeat itself. So, before you set out in search of greener pastures to find fulfillment, consider reinventing your relationship to your career. How? Read on…

Reinventing your relationship to your career in 3 Steps:

Many of us have a bad habit of focusing on what isn’t working or how things could or should be different than they are. What if you could re-frame the conversation in your head to actually focus on all that IS working? You might be surprised with what you find. One of my clients recently took on a daily practice of journaling all that is right in his job. Within a week he recognized a sense of gratitude that hadn’t existed a week before. As they say, attitude is everything, so pick a good one. It’s a great place to start.

Ever notice that you create stories in your mind about other people’s jobs? When it comes to career satisfaction, most of us romanticize how it goes for other people…they have it better, they have a higher level of satisfaction, they are fulfilled, they are living their dream. Instead of putting your energy into wanting what other people have, my invitation is to get to know what’s behind your career envy. What is it that the other person is doing that intrigues you? What do you want that this person has? Listen to what shows up releasing resistance and judgement. Is it peacefulness, fulfillment, financial security, flexibility, connection, freedom? Instead of feeling shame or pain when envy shows up, empower it as intel into your own desires.

With this new awareness, be responsible for creating what you want and need in your current job. Do you want to develop your leadership skills but no one is giving you the chance to manage others? CREATE it! Come up with a project that will add value within your organization, take ownership of it and perhaps even enroll the company in bringing on an intern for you to mentor. Do you want more flexibility in your schedule? Propose a “work from home” day or a modified work schedule. Are you overworked and under-resourced? Put it on loud speaker with your manager and brainstorm ways to reallocate what’s on your plate. Stand in what’s possible.

Before you begin the job search looking for fulfillment in that next position, gift yourself the space and time to view your situation through a different lens. Even if you ultimately decide that finding a new job is the right next step for you, let’s have you running towards that job from an empowered place instead of running from your job disappointed and disillusioned. If you’re interested in speaking with me to explore what’s possible for you in your career, contact me today to schedule a discovery session.