The Top 3 Techniques for Challenging Times
Posted on April 03, 2011 by Nannette DiMascio, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.
Out of the entire powerful NLP toolbox, what would be the best techniques to use for those times negative emotions emotions hit?
A coaching client of mine is going through a divorce, there are young children involved, infidelity and legal issues.
He may be in a business meeting when something reminds him of his current situation. He may get hit with the emotions in the morning and then not feel motivated to go to the gym. It’s hard to sleep.
Out of the entire powerful NLP toolbox, what would be the best techniques to use for those times the emotions hit?
The top three I would recommend are easy to use:
The Hakalau Technique. See the video link on the bottom of this page to learn how to use this easy, fast-acting technique that takes you from the “oh no” state to feeling resourceful
Create a Resource Anchor. This takes about 15 minutes to set up, but once you have it set, you can use it like a re-set switch. See the audio link to the radio show on the bottom of this page. The radio show goes into how to do Hakalau, then the Resource anchor. If you are using the Resource Anchor often, remember to “program” it twice as much as you use it!
Submodality Scramble. Imagine that the problem is contained within a framed life size picture in front of you. Now, make that picture black and white. ”Pick up” that picture and “throw” it the length of a football field away from you, so its smaller than the size of a postage stamp, and then it falls over, dust rises. That’s right!
Here are two other techniques not from NLP, but very powerful.
Schedule time to feel miserable. If it is 9:00 in the morning and you have a meeting, you may choose to put off the miserable feelings. Schedule it for later in the day when it won’t affect you.
Feel it. This may seem counterintuitive but go ahead and feel it. It’s ok that things are not good right now. If you allow that “yes, here is where I am” and stop fighting the bad feelings, you will start to feel better. Allow the feelings, don’t think about them, just feel them. Notice where they are in your body. Without thinking, follow the feelings as they move around your body, and then leave your body. If they “stick,” ask the feeling what it is you need to learn from it so it may be released.
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