Loving someone that does not love us back
Posted on December 12, 2018 by Nermine N, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
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Yesterday, a friend was asking why does this happen- And, above all, why does it last, sometimes for a long time, even after we “understand”?
- It does not have to do, obviously, with intelligence or wisdom
- Rather, with culture and education, as we will see towards the end
- The energies of Love and Fear are very powerful
- Love comes with his “energy friends”, like hope, joy, peace, etc…
- So does Fear, with sadness, despair, frustration, etc…
- When one “opens up” before it is “safe”
- One opens the tap of that energy
- And this energy is now loose
- With all its power
- It is directed from you to another person
- It “landed”, with all its strength, on that other person that you think is right
- Most of the time, in fact, people understand intellectually that it is not appropriate
- The problem is that energy can only be transformed
- It cannot be lost or erased
- Therefore, the only thing to do is to REDIRECT it
- With all its strength, towards something else
- As soon as possible
- Not someone else, something else!
- Because when it is redirected to someone else, it is desperate to land
- And desperate is never accurate!
- Find an activity that challenges you
- Get involved in helping people
- Learn something new
- Go to the gym
- Walk in nature
- Read books
- Do anything that makes you feel “present”
- Slowly, that energy will be transformed
- And you will feel calm again
- When someone else comes in, it will not be that old energy that was desperate to land on someone that will choose, but your wisdom.
- In western countries, as power is given to action more than contemplation, people often “open up” before it is safe.
Often religions or better said, education in some cultures are perceived as having a set of rules that are very strict as far as marriage is concerned. However, they make a lot of sense once we understand how things work. Being in a place of respect and distance, taking the time to make the right choice, if possible with family and friends support, is advisable. Maybe you want to look into it?
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Nermine NA
