Why Settle?
Posted on December 10, 2018 by Renee Miller, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How many of us just settle for ‘ok’?
I am an expert in making do and working with what I have. Yay! But why? If we were desperate and starving and every little thing mattered for our survival – yes, make do.
But I’m not starving and survival is not an issue. I’m talking about my napkin holder (funny what becomes the last straw). We have had the same napkin holder for at least 10 years. And I don’t like it. The napkins collapse inside, get folded up and we are constantly digging to get just one and more likely the whole stack gets pulled out. Is it minor? Yes. It is something that keeps me up at night? Hell no. But every single day it irritates me. EVERY SINGLE DAY! Why have I settled for something in my life that is so easy to fix? Why have I allowed this irritation to continue?
Because it’s easier to leave it alone. It’s easier to maintain the status quo. It’s easier to deal with the known then face to the unknown. But making a change will make me happier. It will make my life easier. But it will also cost money to change. The new napkin holder will cost the enormous sum of $10 (the one I want). And my automatic response it “That’s ok, I don’t need it. The $10 is better used somewhere else.” I’M NOT WORTH IT is the real message!!
Oh hell no! I have been irritated every day for 10 years and I deserve to remove that irritation. I AM WORTH IT! I have the right to make my life easier. I am allowed to make a decision that will benefit me and my happiness. And I got the new napkin holder and I’m really happy with it. Now I smile each time I reach for that napkin.
I feel totally ridiculous that I allowed myself to go so long without a change. But honestly, I only noticed that I was irritated a few months ago. I am so conditioned to ‘make do’ that I don’t even recognize it. So used to not considering my own wants that I’m actually blind to them.
Our culture has conditioned us women to put everyone else first. I am now making it my mission to notice when I’m irritated or unhappy, thinking if there is a way to fix it and then ALLOWING MYSELF to change.
