The Truth About Transformation

Posted on July 10, 2018 by Mark Robinson, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

When we talk about choosing kind versus right, there are moments of reflection when being kind requires an internal lens. Why do we seem to put ourselves last? When did we all become so great at lying to ourselves?
I have lost a ton of weight. I love sharing my story to help others. I don’t preach, I share. What has worked for me was a combination of surgery, diet, exercise and eating healthy, along with the learned behaviours to help change my negative thinking. These changes helped me to forgive past mistakes, take a new outlook on how I view myself and also create a level of forgiveness when I don’t make the best life choices. Once I stopped making excuses for what I choose to eat, the eating habits became more natural to change. Once I ceased making silly reasons for not going to the gym, I realized that the physical activity made me feel better and helped me to create more productive thoughts. It is a cycle that is fascinating to uncover for yourself.
I am not a personal trainer, I am not a nutritionist, and I am not a weight loss professional. What I am is a guy who will share my journey with anyone who is also struggling with weight or body issues and who wants to listen to what I have done. My journey won’t work for you. However, my journey may inspire you to find your journey, and when that happens, it not only makes my journey even more special, it validates the hard work. If someone can benefit from my experiences, that’s an incredible feeling.
For those who have tried multiple times for multiple years to find the quick fix, the easy way to lose weight, the magic pill, the program; I’m here to share what you already know. The magic and the easy solution doesn’t exist. Nothing will lead to the success you desire until you fully recognize why you’ve not been able to choose success. A sizeable transformational project always requires an enablement piece first. Regardless if the change is wanting to drop some weight, change a relationship or help a group of shitty leaders become less shitty; the starting point is always the same. Ask yourself:
Are you aware of what change is required?
What change is desired?
Do you have the knowledge and ability to create change and reinforce it?
How many of your responses to the above were lies and bullshit?
What I eventually was able to recognize was my patterns of behaviour. I started to understand my sabotaging ways and how I was lying to myself for so many years. My self-worth, my fears of weight loss success. Once I was able to get real with ME and learn why I was morbidly obese for 17 years, only then was I able to make the lasting changes. Every day is a weight loss challenge, but I am armed with the thoughts, perseverance and self-support to stop making excuses and live. I am always one turn away on my road from being that cynical guy. I can quickly get caught up in my drama and bullshit and put myself in a position of some severe Netflix binging and a plethora of shitty food choices. That part of my past journey can and does at times still feel pretty comfortable when things get scary or don’t go the way I wanted.
Even today, after ten years of sustainable weight loss – bought 33 waist jeans last month down from 56; I am one shitty moment away from bad food choices, no gym and a bit of self-pity.
However, the one major thing different from the past is that when those self-shitty moments occur, they occur because I CHOOSE them to. It’s not about pity; it’s not about shame or going off the diet and healthy rails. It’s about me choosing my behaviours, knowing I will have to alter somethings if I want to sustain my 33 waist jeans.
No one is making me eat lousy food.
No one is making me not go to the gym.
I am in complete control, and sometimes I choose shitty food and some good Mark movie me time.
That’s me in control, not blaming anyone, loving myself to reward with something that feels good, but knowing there will be work to do moving forward.
I own it all. I own my shit. I own my good days. I own my bad days. I own when I am successful, and I own when I have a shitty day. They are all my experiences, and I have no reason to blame or shame anyone, including myself. I live authentically, and I own it all.
Now get up, look in the mirror and ask yourself if you’re willing to own it all too! When you do, the change you desire will become a reality. Stop beating yourself up and start living. That’s an excellent choice!