The Essentials of Successful Coaching: The Client
Posted on April 26, 2018 by Sheila Coppini, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
The three essentials for accomplishing anything in life go hand by hand with Time and Hard Work. Ask yourself these questions and work through them.
What is coaching? What can coaching do for me? These are some of the main questions that people have when they learn about life coaching and the other types of coaches there are. Coaches are people who help you accomplish your goals by identifying the reasons why you are not where you want to be, they help you create strategic plans for you to get there faster and at the same time they can help you overcome certain types of psychological obstacles that might be the reason for the lack of progress, like poor confidence, etc. The fine line is that a coaching session with your coach is not a substitute for your own hard work and mindfulness.
For example, if you are one of the foreign language devoted people, you might have come across language programs that promise you a level of fluency in three months. I would love to call such statements horse excrement, but I had rather say that it is the perfect marketing strategy for people who are unaware that anything that you want to accomplish and master (such as a level of fluency) in life takes TIME and HARD WORK. If you were one of nature’s gifted people with an exceptional ability to become fluent in three months you would not need these programs to begin with.
So, what are the main essentials for successful coaching?
The first part is to identify the reasons why you are not where you want to be. This statement is not limited to career advancement or economic wealth, but it also includes state of mind, behavior, and overall wellbeing. This part is one that you can do on your own or that you can find out with your coach. The reasons are endless, but there are a particular few that come quiet often. Time management, Poor Confidence, Procrastination, no direction to follow, Confusion, destructive habits and lack of resources.
The second question is: How committed are you to achieving your goals?
Commitment is a scary word, many people when they hear it think about being stuck, doing things that they don’t like, or that are boring and monotonous but that isn’t necessarily true. Commitment is behind Consistency, the thumb rule to any kind of progress. Your coach holds you accountable to your goals, but the results depend on how committed you are to your own goals. Truth be told, many people want many things, but how much are they willing to sacrifice for them? Commitment comes when there is motivation, but learning how to be committed to a goal in such ways that it doesn’t become boring or monotonous is something we can all learn. With self-discovery comes a great deal of excitement and motivation that perhaps you didn’t know before. Being curious and having confidence in what you can accomplish with time and hard work are a solid base for commitment that doesn’t crumble.
With that said, it brings us to the last essential of successful coaching, Consistency. Having a clear direction and a road map to get to where you want to be will substantially decrease the amount of time that will take you to get there, but most importantly it will decrease if not delete the amount of time that you spend wondering lost. However, like I said before it is not a substitute for Time and Hard work. Consistency is another way of saying just that.
What is your goal? Why are you not there?
How committed are you?
Will you be consistent and work hard?
