How to Heal From a Broken Heart

Posted on February 21, 2018 by Allison Sweeney, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.

Romantic love is an intense and magical experience that places our heart, soul and body in a vulnerable position. We are consumed. Fully giving ourselves to someone takes tremendous courage. Therefore, when it doesn’t sustain, it is not reciprocated or we lose our partner it can be utterly devastating taking a toll on our very being.

Heartache has the ability to throw any one of us into a depressive episode. Causing sleeplessness, change in appetite, hopelessness, panic and despair. Many of us fear we will never find love again.

Heartache also has the power to create incredible self-belief, strength and determination. Time, the correct mindset and support system is often needed to get through the stages of grief. Mending a broken heart takes patience, gentleness and encouragement to find the power to begin again.

Empower yourself as you are healing…
Admit the pain and acknowledge your emotions
Your pain and emotions are justified. Giving yourself space to feel the pain, understand the pain, and acknowledge your emotions is a healthy part of the healing process. It is when we stay in a depressive episode that is harmful.

Break ties
Letting go of this attachment is an important part of healing. Instead of focusing on that past, use your energy to focus on your present. Here and now…what do you want, and what can you do?

Rebuild yourself
Consider this loss as an opportunity to rebuild who you are as a person. What did you learn from this relationship? You may be inclined to withdraw yourself socially. However, surrounding yourself with others, and putting yourself in new environments can be a welcomed distraction. New experiences will encourage you to reflect on your inner being, and new life perspectives.

Healthy outlets
Self-destructive behavior can stem from a loss. Instead of picking up bad habits, consider healthy ones. You are wonderfully deserving of happiness, wholeness and peace. This is all something you will experience again. Therefore, while you are waiting, work on properly loving and caring for yourself. Healthy outlets include; exercise, journaling, walking, getting rest and eating well.

Fake it until you make it
At the beginning, it will not be easy to go out with friends, to attend a function solo, or have a movie night alone. BUT, overtime, you will grow leaps and bounds. You will experience new found strength, courage and self-respect you might never have known was in you.

Believe that you WILL find love again
No question. I believe it. You must too. There are so many people in this world. Not just anyone will be a good fit for us, and vice versa, but I do believe there are many different people with whom we could find deep love and connections. First we must heal, find inner peace, continue to develop ourselves, taking risks, and by doing all of that, we will stumble upon great love.

Pain can feel like a ball and chain around our heart, mind and spirit. It can also be used as an excellent tool in which to learn and grow. You are entitled to feel sadness, mourn the loss, but then we must press forward because life has beautiful things awaiting us. Today is a new day, full of new possibilities, and we are just around the corner from a renewed sense of peace and amazing love.

Do you need a soft place to fall, encouragement, help to re-frame your perspective and motivation to find your inner strength? Let’s chat. Support from others can be empowering. Connect with me.