Asking For Help Is Not A Weakness
Posted on September 01, 2017 by James Hartley, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
Men be aware and recognize you need to find healthy and safe supports to work through recovery from a divorce.
I feel that public perception is that men are initiating divorce more often than women, and truth be known it is not the case; in fact, woman start the divorce process two-thirds of the time. Studies have shown that men suffer from a higher rate of suicide following a divorce that was not of their choosing and are more likely to sink into despair, develop mental health issue and engage in destructive behaviour.Society teaches men to suppress their emotions for fear of presenting as weak and vulnerable. Some of the most common emotions men experience throughout a divorce are anger, denial, uncertainty, anxiety, and grief. Without healthy outlets to release the feelings that torture and torment them; men often act outwardly and destructively.
Men experience loss as a result of having their world fall apart around them, for most men their sense of self-worth is tied into the marriage; as husbands, fathers, protectors and the heads of the household. It is a huge blow to the ego to have your world pulled apart and you are powerless to stop it. Men need to open themselves up to accepting supports, as the feelings they are experiencing through the process of divorce can be very damaging to their health physically and mentally. Emotions left to fester without having a healthy outlet and intervention, can lead to self-harm and harm to others.
“Divorce Recovery” needs to be available for men and men need to be open to the help, as it can be so beneficial in the process of healing and moving forward and onward with your life. A divorce recovery coach can be there to support you and aid you through your journey to recovery. You have lost a lot, your normal has been replaced with emotional confusion and uncertainty. A recovery coach can be the voice of reason, and a safe outlet as you go through the process of divorce toward regaining your sense of self-worth, helping you develop ways to cope, planning to provide supports to your children, and encouraging you and supporting you to remain on the “high road” as you grow into your new future.
There is a solution for every situation and the sun is always shining somewhere!
