5 Reasons he'll never appreciate you (Even though you're a good woman)
Posted on January 30, 2011 by Nekisha-Michelle Kee, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Millions of "good women" are left standing with an empty hand or a sigh of disappointment on Valentine’s Day and this article may shed light on why!
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, $2.4 billion worth of jewelry was purchased during February of last year. In addition, millions were spent on chocolates, flowers, and cards. Even then, millions of women were left standing with an empty hand or a sigh of disappointment on Valentine’s Day.
She Contributes
This type of thing happens each year, and while most people feel that it is something that the man is doing wrong, there are actually ways that women are contributing to this situation. Year in and year out, women pin their hopes on Valentine’s Day, only to come away feeling short-changed.
There are 5 main types of scenarios to which women contribute that end up helping to create this cycle of broken hearts, including:
Fantasy Island. The man that she is with simply does not measure up to the man she has created in her head. Women often get mad at men for being who they are, instead of who the woman wants them to be.
Who’s the Boss. In today’s world, women use power and control tactics to make it to the top of their career, but those same attitudes often kill their romance. It creates an unfortunate dynamic that can make the man feel as if he is a servant or son.
Ignored the Psychic. Many women choose to ignore red flags in a relationship, such as a lack of shared values and views. They compromise like this because they are insecure and feel a desperate need to have a man in their life rather then be alone.
Love Campaign. Some women feel they are a prize, and invest a huge amount of time, money and effort desperately trying to convince the guy that she is Ms. Right. She does this despite knowing full well that he’s not that into her in the first place. Thus she is left spinning her wheels in a tireless but ill-fated campaign for his attention and love.
Different Dictionaries. Women often feel they are the perfect match for a man, while his definition of the perfect mate is completely different but she didn’t bother to ask rather she assumed. The bottom line is she ends up being on an emotional roller coaster because he isn’t into her, and she is not “the one.”
Keeping it Real
As women around the country analyze what happened after Valentine’s Day, some may see themselves in the above scenarios. By doing so, they can recognize that they contributed to what happened, and they can make it a goal to change the situation so by next year’s holiday they will be appreciated and celebrated not tolerated.
