Diminishing Self-Doubt

Posted on January 20, 2011 by Michelle Miller, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Every now and then, we get caught in a private trance of self-doubt. These underlying feelings of not being good enough, or lovable enough, or not having enough will slow us down. By expending the energy questioning our actions and every word we say, self-doubt limits us. As Buddha says, “it is a thorn that irritates and hurts.” The longer we focus on self-doubt the more power we give it.

When we put ourselves down, expect the worst or fear falling short, we override any positive feelings or compassion we have for ourselves. These unsettled feelings create emotional stress and prevents us from being satisfied with ourselves or our ultimate experiences.

It is important to be aware of the self doubting story that naturally gets activated and the feelings that are attached to it. These stories or beliefs about ourselves were more often than not, created in childhood. An underlying frame of reference directs our actions or reactions. Our doubting selves will prove our mistaken belief over and over again. And this negative cycle breeds even more self doubt.

We have the ability to reset our frame of reference. So, let’s consider breaking the negative cycle of self doubt. We can rewrite or edit the parts of our story that bring us discomfort. If our belief isn’t working for us we could either discard it, or adjust it, so that the ideas about our self can lead to some better options. Rewrite those parts into positive affirmations that validate your value and self worth. A belief about our self is either useful or unnecessary. Reject and discard the unnecessary and negative. After all, why hold onto a belief that causes uneasiness? By discarding the doubt, the doubt will fade, and strength and trust in yourself will grow.

The more you acknowledge when you are in this focused attention of self-doubt the easier it will be to move out of it. So when self-doubt shows up, take the time to tune in to your thoughts and your feelings and the body sensations they create. Then, you can take a deep breath, and let your breath lead you to where you can find self-assurance. Tap into the positive that is uniquely you!

Remember, underneath your self-doubt or self-criticism are your talents and uniqueness. We all have the ability to continually restore ourselves. So with practice, you can shift your frame of mind. The more you become aware that you have the ability to activate good feelings, the more you can call upon them to restore you. When you shift your mind, you will shift your feelings in the right direction. Show yourself some kindness and use the discomfort of self doubt as your ally and let it be your signal to breathe life into to part of you that is strong, approving, playful, free, and loving. Make use of your true goodness and personal power to create the life you want; each moment at a time.

Creative Solution for Diminishing Self-Doubt

1. Notice the energy of discomfort, doubt, self-judgment
2. Take a breath and exhale deeply, let go, pause
3. Change your focus to goodness, trust, strength
4. Feel and connect to the energy of personal power