Loving Relationships Enhance Life
Posted on April 24, 2017 by Susan Renzulli, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Loving, balanced relationships make life's journey so much better!
We’re all on our own individual journeys through life; having a loving, committed partner makes that journey so much sweeter. Most adults seek love, happiness, friendship, acceptance, and sexual connection in order to maximize the joy and output in their lives. Without healthy self-esteem maintaining good relationships isn’t always easy. If you are fortunate enough to find the right person to share your life with, how do you mindfully nurture and honor that relationship? And, how do you maintain a healthy, loving, committed relationship that endures all of the challenges of life while staying true to your own journey? It starts with respecting your partner’s individual journey. A man’s journey is different from a woman’s journey and sometimes we don’t see that clearly. Men just think, act and react differently than we do and that’s a good thing! Respect and love him for his masculinity. Encourage his journey and enjoy his manly way of doing things. He isn’t a woman and is not going to act and think like we do! Do not try to control him, his journey, or the outcome of your relationship. When you accept your partner for himself and honor his individual journey rather than resisting it, you create a safe, loving environment in which your relationship can thrive. You will also radiate a loving vibe of acceptance and attraction. Acceptance leads to confidence and confidence is vital to both one’s successful journey in life and one’s ability to truly connect, accept and radiate in their partner’s life and individual journey.
Confident people feel secure in their relationships. They are able to just be present in the relationship and let it evolve organically, without force or pressure. Being able to give and receive freely in your relationship and trust that your partner is at the same level of commitment as you are is very fulfilling and healthy. You have to love and trust yourself in order to have the confidence to love and trust your partner. Having high self-esteem doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it does equip you with the skills to identify what you want and what you deserve to have, and the strength to walk away if it is the wrong relationship for you and your individual journey. “You will never be satisfied in your relationship unless you learn to truly love yourself. If you don’t genuinely love yourself, you will never fully trust that anyone else can love you” (Alexis & Charles. 10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know about Men: Understand His Mind and Capture His Heart”.)
Balance is crucial in a relationship; if one partner is more invested than the other in the relationship that creates an imbalance and very unhealthy dynamics and basically sets the relationship up for failure. Two individuals who love, accept and respect each other’s individual journeys are more likely to acknowledge the importance of a balanced relationship where they love and respect each other as equals. “In the right relationship, you don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells . . . You don’t feel like you have to make it work. You don’t feel like you’re suffocating . . . . You never even think about the possibility of losing him [or her], because you don’t feel you need to possess him [or her].” (Alexis and Charles).
Some people naturally have high self-esteem and confidence. Others need to constantly work at it. If you find yourself needing a confidence boost try spending some quality time with yourself. Carve out some time to just nurture yourself. Do what it is that makes you happy- go for a walk, read a book, take a yoga class, call a friend for some breezy catching up on the phone. Then, take it to the next step. Do some visualization and some writing. Make a list of the things you’re grateful for and then write a Daily Gratitude Statement. You can work on your Vision Statement- this might be a simple list of goals you want to accomplish over the next week, months, or year. Being clear on what we want tends to boost our self-confidence. Also, enhance your living space. This can be as simple as just a good thorough cleaning. Or you might do some re-decorating; new pillows, flowers, vases, pictures etc. all go a long way toward brightening up our environment. I’m a huge advocate of self-care. Wine and dine yourself!! Eat healthy meals and balance your life out with exercise, yoga, meditation, and some good self-love! Watch a funny movie. Put on some music and dance! Life is much more enjoyable when we have fun with ourselves and it frees us up to have fun with others as well. And, when we’re having fun our confidence is a boosted and self-confidence is so important on both our individual journey AND to bring into our relationships.
Life- what a beautiful gift we have been given! Nurture yours and make sure that you’re only bringing the worthwhile partners along for the ride. If you are fortunate enough to have a loving partner on that this exciting voyage of life then it is even sweeter!
