Why am I honored to be sensitive?
Posted on April 13, 2017 by Kate Kozenkova, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Have you ever heard: “Oh, you are way too sensitive” or “To achieve something you have to hide your feelings”.
I bet you did. Every woman or girl faced it at least once. Let me ask you. Was anyone who ever told you that your best example of happiness, fulfillment, and accomplishment in life? Not really.
Because all outstanding people know the great law of manifestation. It’s not about what you do or how you do it (while actions are very important), it’s about what you FEEL and what you BELIEVE. You can achieve, blocking your feeling and activating willpower, but it never will be what you really want. The power to feel the world on a deeper level opens up a lot of opportunities and possibilities.
It brings difficulties when we don’t know how to use it right. Most of the times we don’t. We are wired to think we can’t control it and this is exactly why sometimes sensitivity plays against us. It is offended by the fact that we forgot that sensitivity is our friend, not the enemy. Even if sometimes it’s too much and we are overwhelmed with our feelings, this is how we can learn faster. Feeling bad about something definitely means you aren’t at this stage and you won’t do what you sense being awful. When you are in a hard situation, your sensitivity is so strong it makes you refocus and find salvation inside of you. This is how we dig deeper and open world we have never known existed inside of us. But only when we are willing to change perspective. It takes courage, time and knowledge so your mind will be able to reprogram old beliefs and find new ways in the amplitude of our subconsciousness.
You don’t get in life what you want, you get what you believe. (Oprah)
Why sensitivity is your best gift:
1) It helps you understand situations more clearly and differ truth from lies. Because let’s face it, even in the most difficult and mind-blowing situations of your life, deep inside you felt you were making a mistake from the beginning. Mistakes are great, we got better by learning. But big lesson that comes with each of a failure is attention to a whisper of your sensitivity. When we know how to differ the feeling we move along easier and clearer.
2) It helps you to have super effective communication. Connections are very important. When you can feel and understand another person, you are remembered.
This is how our brain wired. We tend to help someone we like and we sympathize the person when we feel understood.
3) It saves your time. Being sensitive you don’t need too much time to understand it’s not for you and move on. It comes with its difficulties as when you realize you don’t like a new job in a couple of months, you probably feel something is wrong with you. But in the end you see the sooner you try and move on if it fails for you, the better. Sensitive people find their way faster.
4) It saves you from toxic things. You don’t need to dramatize your life, create stories out of nowhere, keep toxic relationship not to get bored or attach to distractive habits. If you can control and use your sensitivity, you feel the world in its intensity, enjoy simple things and find fulfillment in the variety of life like gratitude, intimacy with close ones, helping others or long walk alone with the brightness of your world.
5) It helps you to manifest your dreams. (We dive deeper into that one in the next article)
All that is great. But how to master your sensitivity? Let’s see.
Lana is a very sensitive person. She is compassionate, where most people would be indifferent. She senses other people’s emotions. It wasn’t easy as often she picked them up. Any demonstration of anger or aggression was hard for her to comprehend.
As life shows we face what we fear. Lana loves her job at real estate company, it’s creative, well enough paid and she enjoys spending time with her colleges, everyone except “one major problem”. This is how she called her boss when we first met. Antipathetic, predominant B****rd. Rules of politeness weren’t for him, he paid well and demand from his employees the same he did from workers at the brick factory he had 40 years ago when he just started. He shouts when something goes wrong, almost always aggressive and never, never says please or thank you.
Lana wanted to quit her job. But then she realized, the world is big, it wasn’t the first time she was trying to run away from situations like this, so she decided to ask for professional help.
When we met she was constantly worried, uptight and depressed. She couldn’t let go anxiety about her boss.
- How many time have you suffered from your sensitivity? – I asked
- Are you kidding? Millions of times! At school, college, some of old boyfriends…
- I know what you are talking about – I exhaled.
- That’s why I probably here, – she laughed.
- True, – I smiled, – Let me ask you something, have you ever thought your sensitivity is a great gift?
- Seriously? – She gasped, – Never.
We discussed several points described in this article. Lana has never thought other people don’t have what she has. She hasn’t known things she loves and can easily do aren’t available for everyone as they don’t have exclusive gifts of sensitivity.
- It’s the matter of force exertion. Sensitivity is a tool, the question is how you use it. How do you apply it at work now? For the relationships with your colleagues, including the boss, right?
- Right… Many of my colleagues seem to like to talk with me as I understand them…
- Exactly. No one ever taught us that sensitivity is a potential energy that we can control. It should not necessarily be used for perceiving everything around without filter. If we apply it to something particular, we realize the force of sensitivity and can be less responsive to negativity around.
- So… I get the idea! But how can I do it now?
- You love your job, right?
- Absolutely.
- Keep communication with people at work who inspire you and redirect the force of your sensitivity to your job and to your projects. Try to understand what your clients want, how they feel, create ads using the power of your senses and so on.
- That sounds amazing… Do you think I can so easily switch…?
- It will take time, but you have to make the decision and keep in mind that sensitivity is your gift and only YOU decide how to rule it.
- God…That’s powerful. So will I stop caring about my boss…?
- Not at once. But when you stop see the relationship with him as a channel for your emotions, you will look at the situation in a different way. He is this way because he never had perception of the world you have..have you ever thought?
- No…
- Maybe he’s not a bad person, he just lacks some sensitivity, this is his way, his lessons in life, while yours is to learn to use your sensitivity right.
In a couple of months Lana called me to tell she felt much better about her boss, he still shouts, but it doesn’t matter as she got a big promotion because of the high level of engagement her clients have as she builds new way of communication with them, using her sensitivity. She applied her gift right.
Now when you have effective points for reprogramming your mind I want to share with you the next step, powerful exercise that helps to master your sensitivity on the energy level and use it for the best. I use every time to balance and come back to a happy, calm state or to help others to do the same.
Get your instant access to the Audio here where I guide you through the practice. It’s absolutely Free.
With Love,
Kate