Why sometimes do we feel sad or stuck in life?

Posted on November 30, 2016 by Valery Molone, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.

Life can be rough sometimes, and most people at times feel sad. This can mean different things for different people. It might include sadness, anger, stressed out, or fed up with life. Why you might feel this way? Sometimes it is difficult to work out why you are feeing sad. One of the important things you can do at the time is to identify what is contributing to this feeling. Some reasons you might feel sad. You’ve experienced one or several tough or stressful events; People around you are experiencing tough times. It’s not uncommon for other people’s unhappiness to influence how you’re feeling. This could be because it is hard to see people you care about feeling sad, or because of the way they’re coping with their emotions, they are difficult to be around.

Not being able to identify the reason for how you are feeling is not uncommon.

Psychological factors
Stress or anxiety—Stress can come from many different sources, like pressures at school, work or home from parents, teachers and sometimes your friends, or even your own expectations.
Grief or loss—This can include the death of a loved one, or the end of a relationship or friendship.
Depression and other mental illnesses.

Social factors
Family problems, like parents going through a divorce or fighting, or transitioning to a stepfamily.
Problems at school or work, like bullying or violence.
Relationship or friendship problems, like breaking up or fighting with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Moving into a new house;
Starting at a new school or job;
Living with someone with a mental or physical illness or disease;
Feeling bored or uninspired, like over school or summer vacation.

Physical factors
Not eating well;
Not getting enough exercise;
Not getting enough sleep;
Using drugs or alcohol;
Being sick, or fighting off illness, which can make you feel run down and not well;
Chronic illness or other medical conditions;
Hormonal changes, especially for women during their menstrual cycles. This may happen a few days before you get your period and you may not make the connection immediately.

What to do if you’re feeling like shit?
When you’re feeling sad, you might have the urge to lash out at someone, even if they had nothing to do with your feelings. Here are some ideas that might stop you from blowing up and help you get to a happier place.
Get informed. Once you figure out what might be causing you to feel sad, you can do something about it.

Talk to someone.
Talking to someone you feel comfortable with, like a friend, teacher, parent or counselor, can be a great way of expressing your feelings. These people might also be able to help you identify why you are feeling shitty and work out strategies for dealing with it.

Chill out.
Sometimes getting some space away from what is making you feel this way or a change of scenery can be helpful. This might include going for a walk or listening to your favorite music, reading a book, going to the movies, or whatever works for you.

Express your feelings
Writing down your feelings or keeping a journal can be a great way of understanding your current emotions in a particular situation. It can also help you come up with alternative solutions to problems.
Express your feelings in a way that won’t cause bodily damage to yourself or another person.

Get creative.
Find things to do to distract yourself from feeling shitty and that get you thinking creatively. This can include drawing a picture, writing a poem, or playing a game. Even though you might not feel like it at first, even a little creativity might be enough to shift your mood.

Take care of yourself.
Feeling shitty may be your body telling you it needs to take time out, and pushing yourself physically might just make things worse. Take time out to spoil yourself by doing something that you usually enjoy. Even though you might not feel like it, exercising and eating well can help. Getting plenty of sleep is important, too.

Exercise helps stimulate hormones like endorphins, which help you feel better about yourself. If you haven’t done a lot of exercise before, it might be a good idea to start doing something small a couple of times each week, such as a 15-minute walk or two or three laps in a pool. Visiting your doctor for a regular check up can be a way to make sure you don’t have any physical health problems.

Avoid drugs and alcohol.