I complete Me...
Posted on December 09, 2010 by Coach Derrick, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.
This is a message about loving yourself enough to remove your mask and be our authentic self without apology to anyone.
It is the weak who are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong. -Leo Rosten
I have coached in the past with male clients who have issues with showing emotion. The consensus feel it is a sign of weakness to cry in front of others. As males we fight with our inner self to keep on the mask of strength. However, that struggle with the inner self is another way of hiding who we truly are!
When we are born into this world, the biology of gender is decided by one chromosome. However each of us is predisposed to embrace both sides of male and female dominant traits and emotions. In other words, we all have emotions to cry or laugh, demonstrate sensitivity or strength, empathy or sympathy, and love or aggression.
However it is common, in western society, to quickly take sides on the male or female aspect of ourselves. This results in creating limiting boundaries based on what we see in the mirror. It leaves us claiming half of our true potential as creative, resourceful, and whole beings.
For example, men traditionally show signs of strength and dexterity in their character. As males, it is considered weak to display true emotion in front of others. However true strength is displaying our emotions as we feel them. It’s about embracing all aspects of ourselves as a whole.
On the other side women traditionally embrace their emotional side, but some feel the need to find their male counterpart for security or other strength like qualities. However true security is embracing and honoring the inner strength that already resides in the heart.
Regardless of sexual preference, we typically look for the other partner to “complete” us in hopes of joining together to make a whole union.
In reality, we are designed to be whole beings and embrace both aspects of male/female traits to lead a complete and enriched life. We no longer need to see ourselves as one part, but collectively find our true magnificence which is the whole aspect of what we are here in this lifetime to experience.
It doesn’t mean that males do not need a female counterpart or vice-versa. It simply means that we recognize ourselves as whole beings on our own and can choose to find another whole being to play with. The energy of two whole beings becomes a more powerful union and only adds to the enriched experience we treasured on our own.
As a result, we are no longer seen as giving 50/50 in any relationship. Both sides give and live to 100 percent of their potential and own their magnificence! This type of relationship allows the other partner to know each other at a much deeper level and appreciate the other for who they truly are.
Make 2010 a year to work on loving all aspects of your inner self! To love and reclaim the whole part of ourselves makes a deeper connection to our soul. When we can love ourselves at this level, we can give the same complete love as well as receive complete love in return.
Coach Derrick
Be Magnificent,
