Who makes the rules you live by
Posted on September 17, 2016 by Kelly Hoten, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
This addresses the struggle in life to find the self we are intended to be.
Who makes the rules you live by
The stress about success at it’s source is created outside of us. We enter into the world under someone elses paradigm. Under another persons ideal and under another persons experience, we begin to grow, under some one else’ rules of being. The stress is caused by an in-congruence. The ideas which are brought into our world and the ideas we formulate through learning and experience may only be slightly different, but different enough to have energy. The energy or stress has the potential to disrupt relationships. Relationships that are based in parent, child, student, teacher and so forth have an expectation of balance, the expectation that states who is in charge. When a persons autonomy is not honored, the stress energy shows up. This is not typically the intended outcome. The question becomes, at what age or stage does autonomy to learn through personal experience, and when does that surpass the teaching.
Individuals as young adults go out into the world and search out similar personalities with similar ideals as their parental units. This can be conscience or unconscious, but is the unidentified comfort zone. Out in the world is where they find difficulties, because either they don’t fit and are a bit lost, or they do and find the reminiscent discord. Victim or fighter, where is the problem? We could build a chart for the directions this could go bad. The next is to search out whats happening, and what needs to happen, or am I doing this right? At this stage there is clearly a problem, but not so clear a solution. It has not yet been tracked back to the paradigm of some other persons rules. We have yet to find our place, make piece with our own autonomy and accepted what that all means.
