10 Critical Ways My Coaching for Co-Parenting Helps Parents
Posted on July 13, 2016 by Jodi Peary, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Coaching for Co-Parenting to learn concrete skills-based strategies to navigate a new terrain and find ways to better support children.
10 Critical Ways My Coaching for Co-Parenting Helps Parents
Growing up amidst the chaos of litigating parents can interfere with a child’s development of vital secure relationships with both parents. Parenting may become difficult when the process of becoming divorced undermines a parent’s sense of confidence and a parent harbors feelings that involve a mixture of fear, sadness, anger, confusion, and uncertainty.
With Coaching for Co-Parenting, parents can feel good about the parenting they provide their children during and after divorce because they have learned concrete skills-based strategies to navigate a new terrain and find ways to better support their children.
10 Critical Ways Coaching for Co-Parenting Helps Parents
1. Parents are supported in creating a parenting plan for structured and graduated steps toward co-parenting their children. The plan helps to contain anxiety and empower parents to create new co-parenting behavior patterns.
2. Parents learn positive behaviors to enhance productive communication about children with their former partner.
3. Parents learn how to limit and redirect hostile comments or behaviors between former partners.
4. Parents build new, positive strategies for engaging in child-centered dialogue with their ex that concentrates on current challenges related to children as well as problem solving.
5. Parents learn simple co-parenting behaviors that show love and care toward their child when the child is with the other parent.
6. All parents, partnered or not, disagree sometimes. Having two parents that get along, despite differences of opinion, is the critical ingredient for their child to thrive. The child and parents learn to normalize common forms of disagreement, tolerate their differences, and practice compromise
7. Parents are coached toward a shift in conversational tone between parents, away from the intensity provoked by conflict-ridden intimate relationships toward a business-like demeanor that is focused on the child’s needs.
8.Parents learn to be mindfully adaptive to benefit children and maintain a cooperative co-parenting framework.
9.The parenting coach may remain a parental resource for unresolved disputes relating to logistical issues.
10. Co-Parenting is by no means easy. In the best circumstances, tensions may still arise around the logistics of travel for visitation, scheduling, and finances. However, with the support of a detailed parenting plan, parents armed with healthy co-parenting skills will manage their differences and maintain a more collaborative approach to parenting their children.
