On Being Stuck
Posted on July 05, 2016 by Catherine DeAngelis, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Being stuck sucks! It is paralyzing when working our way through meeting life goals but lose grasp of appreciating how to realize our dreams.
When you are thinking to yourself you are falling into an emotional abyss and you just don’t know how to stop spiraling downward! Is it that tyrant inside your head controlling your thinking that you don’t know what to do forcing you into a shut-down mode and paralyzing you from living the fullness of life?
Being stuck sucks because it is that silent oppressor that can cause depression, emotional outbursts, insomnia, indecision, procrastination, and addictive behaviors such as smoking, too much sex (not enough), drugs, alcohol, food, and exercise to spending or gambling compulsively!
What is it you use as a conduit to be in control of, or in distraction from, being stuck?
When you get stuck in the negative thought streams, find out what it is you can do. Make yourself accountable. Be responsible! Blaming others for your inaction only fuels the pain and it takes you further into this ineptness and inability to move forward.
The best way to unstuck yourself is to open up to the realization that it is okay to ask for help. Watch the taboo mind-set and avoid “what, me, I don’t need any help – I can help myself!”
Is it the stuff in your head that you think should or could or is not being done to lighten the pressures of having to do everything needed to be done right now at this moment. The repetitive negative thinking pattern only gets you into a state of nervous agitation.
Think about what is getting in the way. Stress might just be the first thing that deters you or makes you feel like you are knee-deep in mud. Think about your own stress level, your own health, and help yourself. Think about what are the stressors in your life. If you don’t spend time thinking about how to relieve that kind of stress, you will be stuck and those around you may have no idea what is wrong and then who will give you the love and care that you need?
Many think finding help is a sign of weakness or defeat! Stay away from the shame or embarrassment. To admit that you are experiencing impact to your emotional and mental well-being is crucial. Seeking guidance and support meets your courage head on and makes self-awareness a start to pulling yourself out the kind of “mental sludge” that’s got you going like Whirling Dervishes!
Getting stuck in negative thought patterns can hinder you in your life in many aspects – don’t go it alone – ask for help. There are all kinds of talk therapies and support services available to explore solutions – if you don’t know where to start read about the resources available to you to get you on track and living life you are responsible for and deserve!
Get out of your way and make YOU matter! Affirm the positives, find ways to reverse the self-deprecation. Tools are available that work to halt the ongoing belittling or undervaluing of yourself.
Resources to Keep You On Track…
There are many sources available, able to give you answers and found within your community from life coach, psychologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist to group supports, family practitioners or community services in your neighbourhood.
Overall most of us look to trusted family members and close friends or spiritual members of the community to give us the love, support and understanding we need. Take the path of support and lead yourself into being uplifted and out of the state of “going nowhere fast.”
Many communities have information centres that produce lists of available services which you can view at social service agencies or public libraries. Other sources of information include books about specific problems, also available at your public library or local bookstore and films, videos and audio tapes, courses and workshops offered through community centres, secondary schools, colleges and universities..
Catherine DeAngelis is a life coach, journalist and advocate of mental health. Through her Out of Pocket Emotions programs, she educates, encourages and motivates individuals along their course in life. She offers tools to break attachment to emotional blockages and brings better awareness, understanding and dealings with emotions. She wants others to realize they are worthy of reaching life goals and can attain the enriching life they desire.
