Words That Wound or Heal
Posted on April 12, 2016 by Shayna Jai, One of Thousands of Spirituality Coaches on Noomii.
If you have ever worried that you might say the wrong thing and hurt someone, read this, to help you move through a difficult conversation.
The cost of words and the gift of them.
We live in a society where we are desensitized to how we come across to people.
The gift of words can as compelling as a gift or be like a knife, without you even knowing. I submit that everyone walking this earth has dealt with some difficult times in their life.
When you speak to a friend, family member or casual acquaintance, you will never know what may uplift their day or upset them, or trigger them into an old wound. We also have no common language to express our pain and hurt to each other in a socially acceptable, friendly way.
Yes, there are many techniques you can learn, and, how many people will learn the same techniques you do, so that when there is a sticky situation, you both are on the same page?
This situation is one of the places that keep us separated from each other. To me, it has become intolerable and I am looking for a solution – a common way to express when things go awry in a relationship.
In my experience when there is a conflict the old way or typical reaction is for people to run away from each other, take their love and presence away or damage each other further by using more words that wound. Just hearing someone you love or care about say ‘I don’t want to talk about this’ is so hurtful.
So I am looking for the solution within me. Investigating. Asking my divine to help me ‘see’ clearly and understand my own responsibility to my communication. Where have I hurt others with my words? What have I done to others that hurt them so much they could not talk to me anymore? What have I said that touched an old wound and kept people from relating to me any longer?
The answers come and I change, regularly. Life gives me lots of practice.
When a conflict comes up I look to see how authentic I can be towards myself first. It seems to be working because there are less conflicts between me and others. And the interesting thing is, I notice more happy people around me rather than people in conflict. This slows my reaction and my responses. I’m noticing more. I find that my responses become more loving towards others, because I am checking to see what I need first (which is a loving act towards myself).
Sacred living is the vision that motivates me in life. Within it’s very nature are keys to keeping love present. The question is, when will we all have the same goals – to keep relationships honest, authentic, vulnerable and real and deepening to a place where love exists even when there is a wound? What do you say?
If Love is All There is, What is I?
Posted by Sheryl Jai on April 9, 2014 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (0)
From a Oneness Blessing Giver who just passed away, Ed Karlovich, guess blogger
If Love Is All There Is, What Is I?
Where Love is not, I takes over
Love is peace, so I carries anger
Love needs nothing, so I wants and accumulates
Love is now, so I plans and controls
Love is abundant, so I worries
Love is ease, so I is dis-ease
Love is free, so I accepts limitation
Love is joyful, so I is sad
Love flows, so I efforts
Love is complete, so I is not good enough
Love accepts all, so I makes judgments
Love is blissful, so I seeks pleasure and avoids pain
Love is eternal, so I is afraid
Love offers only Love, so I defends
Love watches patiently, so I is anxious
Love is still, so I is in action
Love understands, so I has to “get it”
Love sees only Love, so I sees others
And so it goes… Love allows I to be as I is and simply watches
Why does I have to bring to life what Love does not?
Now always contains the choice:
Love or I Now the human is faced with a choice:
Love or I Life lives freely when I finally cooperates by choosing Love
Those who enjoy the life game being I are not wrong
Those who are not enjoying the game so much may choose to awaken
Open up just enough to give
Love room and recognize the game called life
Life lived awakened to Love is beyond words to describe
The game is so brief
by Edward Karlovich, Jr. May 18, 2012
