The happy mommy secret to having it all
Posted on November 03, 2015 by Erin Acton, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
We really can have it all. It’s a bold statement, and it’s true. But it might not be what you think.
This article first appeared on my blog at www.erinacton.com
We really can have it all. It’s a bold statement, and it’s true. But having it all isn’t about having all the “stuff”—the fancy car, the executive job, the holiday property. Having it all is about what we think all that stuff will give us: things like happiness, peace, contentment, confidence.
What we think we want
Here’s what I mean. Let’s suspend reality and imagine for a moment that we all want society’s version of having it all:
- Being a super mom: volunteering at the kids’ school and events, baking from scratch for bake sales, chauffeuring to extra-curricular activities.
- Owning a great house, car, and manicured property. Perhaps even a holiday or investment property.
- Having an executive-level or executive-track career and matching income.
- Being an amazing lover, friend, and confidant to our spouses.
What we really want
It turns out that we don’t really want those things. We want what we THINK those things will give us. It’s an important distinction.
Here are the above things again, but this time I’ve included some pretty typical answers of what we really want:
- Being a supermom: Acceptance, contribution, love
- Owning stuff: Accomplishment, confidence
- Being a big wig: Purpose, impact, happiness
- Being an amazing spouse: Love, acceptance, peace
Find out what you really want
Here are some questions you can ask yourself. I invite you to spend 10–20 minutes writing out your answers.
- What stuff am I striving for right now?
- What is it that I want that stuff to give me?
- What’s even deeper and more important that those things from question 2 will give me?
- What are some ways that I can find those things from questions 3 in my life right now?
- What actions can I take to approach life from a place where I already have those things?
Then pick an action and do it today. You’ll be on your way to feeling like you truly do have it all.
I invite you to share this with someone – you never know who might need to hear this exact message today.
