20 Ways to Increase Your Confidence
Posted on September 16, 2015 by Kim McDaniel, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
Healthy confidence will go a long way in your strides to become more successful. Lacking confidence kills dreams before they are born. You can change.
These quick and practical methods can be put into your daily behaviors starting today! There is no time like NOW to embrace growth, challenge, and progress!
1. Think about someone who appears confident and act, talk and walk like this role model. Imagine them in certain situations in which you find yourself and play out in your mind how they would operate.
2. Smile a lot more. From the belly – from way deep inside, as you reflect on all the great blessings you can truly be thankful for. (Even when you are alone). You will learn that smiling is contagious and is like a cloak of love and encouragement gently placed over another. And by giving away that “extra” your confidence will actually soar because you will witness how you can almost control the moods of others – in a positive way!
3. Let it go – don’t club your past over the head and drag it, kicking and screaming into your future. Learn from the past – take the lesson with you and leave the guilt. It’s gone; it’s never coming back.
4. Treat Yo’self! Buy a new outfit, get your hair done, do something special that you’ve been putting off. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost. Ahhh – confidence looks good on you!
5. Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.
6. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities every chance you get – because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it and have more confidence.
7. Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time. If you have an hour to invest, spend 45 minutes on your strength and 15 on your weakness. Dousing yourself in your shortcomings is not confidence builder – dealing with them is necessary, but do not let them dominate your life.
8. Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch the reaction on their face after you’ve said it the first time and there will be no going back.
9. Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.
10. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.
11. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!
12. Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem – it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.
13. List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.
14. At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.
15. Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out? Make a difference in the life of those who come into your space.
16. Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualizing success and confidence will make your days bend into foregone conclusions.
17. Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change your body language.
18. Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.
19. Learn to brag about yourself in your own head. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements – no matter how small. Success breeds more success – and as a man thinks/self-converses, so is he.
20. And finally – You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter?
All the Best,Coach Kim
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