Increase Your Self Confidence in Just 90 Days

Posted on June 25, 2015 by Alaisha Capers, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Are you suffering from low self-confidence? You are not alone and believe it or not even the most seemingly confident people have their insecurities. Sometimes people who appear extremely self-confident have times or situations when they too lack confidence. No one is perfect but low self-confidence can be problematic because it confines us to our comfort zone where everything is safe from potential humiliation and further mistakes. Once you are stuck in that zone, it is very hard to move forward in life which keeps us from achieving our dreams, reaching our goals and living a successful life. Here is how you can significantly increase your self-confidence in just 90 days!

Days 1-30: Review Your Past Experiences

Most often lack of confidence it is the accumulation of negative experiences from our past, which we fail to deal with when they happen. Failure to learn from the experiences we encounter only keeps us reliving the same types of situations until we are able to see where we have gone wrong and stop the cycle of self-defeat. It can be highly effective to journal daily to discover and overcome low self- confidence that stems from feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. Think about your childhood experiences? Did anything occur to make you lose confidence in yourself? Think about your experiences as an adult. Write down any specific times when your confidence was lowered due to a negative event or experience? Are you able to find meaning and value in these experiences? Experience is one of the greatest teachers we have. The most successful people don’t just happen. They must know hardship, suffering, defeat, struggle and loss before they truly understand the depth of their worth. Know that you are worthy of feeling great about yourself!

Days 31-60: Apply Lessons Learned

You are better able to increase your self-confidence now that you can recognize their underlying causes. Now is the time to start evaluating the triggers that smash your confidence throughout the day. What makes you feel inadequate? Continue your daily journal and write down the specific times when you’re feeling less than confident and what caused you to feel that way. During these thirty days work on approaching challenging situations differently using lessons learned from your childhood, earlier in your adulthood as well as these current thirty days. What can you do better or differently so that you can feel more confident? Write down what you will do going forward and frequently revisit these notes. Even the most confident person doesn’t become that way by sheer luck. They have to work at it.

Days 61-90: Hush the Inner Critic

During this month you will focus highly on hushing your inner critic. This inner critic is the nagging voice that tells you how deficient you are, how ugly you are, how weak and useless you are and how people dislike you for who and what you are. It will convince you to believe in all these lies until your self-confidence is zapped and your sense of self becomes devoid. You have likely noticed your inner critic within the first sixty day but at this point you understand how your critic became the monster that it is. You have studied your critic, you know how it operates and now you can finally disempower it! This inner critic lives in all of us as much as the inner voice of goodness does. Intentionally choose the inner voice of goodness. If you find your inner critic saying negative things challenge it with positivity. If you find it difficult to challenge it with positivity consider not placing judgment at all. This mindful approach has proven to be useful also. If you find yourself comparing yourself to others focus your attention on how to be uniquely you and different versus better.

You are endowed with physical characteristics, talents, strengths, and a unique personality that make you important and beautiful. Everyone is built for success and that includes having confidence. The capacity to be confident of oneself does not happen by chance, it lies within all of us. Like with all other things in life we are just as capable as the most confident person we know. The difference is our belief in ourselves; our ability to accomplish anything we set our minds to; and our ability to practice self-love, forgiveness and acceptance.

Author: Alaisha Capers
Alaisha Capers is a Life and Success Coach and the Founder of Life Works Success Coaching, LLC located in the Washington, D.C. metro area. She helps women fill in the gap between where they are now and where they want to be. She offers flexible options for sessions which can be conducted face-to-face, via telephone or Skype to coach those across the miles. Visit her website and blog at alaishacapers dot com for more information.