Feel Better: Think Positively
Posted on May 26, 2015 by Leanne Doering, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.
Learn the methods to reprogram your thinking and develop a positive mental attitude. How to feel better about yourself and attract positive people.
We all do it. We all have those days when we just feel upset, irritable, or angry – and sometimes we don’t even know why. Perhaps it is during a certain time of month, or perhaps it has to do with a reoccurring or frustrating situation that we are a part of. I find that if we begin to have negative thoughts and feelings, it is quite common that we hold onto them for much too long, and for no apparent reason. In the moment, the last thing we want to do is to let go of that negative feeling and give into positivity.
Seems strange doesn’t it…why is it that we want to be negative? The truth is, that although we all have these negative thoughts and emotions, we are the ones who are deciding to be negative in the first place. We have a choice. We can respond either negatively or positively to any event. Perhaps you have reacted negatively in the past, but there is no reason why you have to continue that way. For example, let’s say your partner continuously forgets to pick up his clothes off the floor (after many reminders not to do so), and you typically react with anger. In fact, it may have come to the point where your negative reaction is triggered by standing in the environment where the clothes usually are, even if they are not physically present. This is a great example of where you can choose to RESPOND, instead of REACT. Reactions happen almost immediately without much thought, whereas responses give you the time you need to think about the choice available to you – will you respond either negatively or positively?
Picture this, the next time something frustrates you, you choose to respond in a kind, calm and respectful manner. You let them know what is bothering you, but you do it in a positive way. For example, “I have noticed that you left your clothes on the floor again, can you please make an effort to pick them up so that we both have a nice clean space to enjoy together. It makes me feel better, and I like feeling my best when I am around you.” This will likely trigger a positive chain of events instead of starting a fight.
When we choose to be positive, think positively and respond positively, a positive mental attitude will follow. Slowly and surely, the more positive choices we make, the more they will become second nature. You will begin to find that your previous negative reactions will become positive ones. Let’s just think for a second — What benefit do we get from being negative? None. In the moment if may be a difficult choice to stay positive, but I challenge you to do so. With a negative mindset, we attract negative people. With a PMA you will feel better about yourself, you will exert more positive energy, and you will attract more positive people.
Methods to reprogram your thinking and develop a PMA:
- When you feel negativity creep up, wait and count “one 1000, two 1000, three 1000”.
- Realize your power of choice: choose to respond positively instead of reacting negatively.
- Use positive affirmations on a daily basis (ex. say something positive to yourself every morning when you wake up) – always keep the saying present, positive and personal.
Ex. “I am safe and protected in this moment”
Ex. “I am strong and beautiful”
Note: Do not say “I was” or “I will”, be sure to use, “I am”
When we feed our subconscious with positive thoughts and words, it allows us to cope better with negative situations, and makes it easier to respond positively. The longer you practice responding positively and using daily affirmations, the more your PMA will grow, and the better you will feel about yourself. Believe me. It seems simple, but it works.
Learning Outcomes:
- We have a choice to respond negatively or positively to any situation.
- Counting to 3 before you respond can make it easier to stay positive.
- Choosing to respond positively instead of reacting negatively can foster a PMA.
- Using daily affirmations that are present, positive and personal can help develop a PMA.
- When we have a positive mental attitude we will naturally attract other positive people.
What has been your experience when faced with frustrating situations? Do you tend to react, or do you take the time to think and respond in a cool, collected manner? Try to think of one situation right now that tends to trigger a negative reaction – what could you do differently to alter the outcome to be more positive? How could you change what you say? What is one positive affirmation that you can say to yourself every day to help foster your PMA?
I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to call or email me with your stories, opinions or other ideas. How do you stay positive?
Contact me here:
Phone: 778-738-8288
Email: leanne@feel-empowered.com
Website: www.feel-empowered.com
