3 steps development: I want, I can, I do!

Posted on April 20, 2015 by Silvana Budisteanu, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Recently I have been talking with many people about coaching. What it is, how it works, what it means. I think that, no matter how many complicated definitions I have read, coaching means, in fact, a personal and/or professional 3 step development:

1.I want – I consciously wish a certain thing. I set a goal, I assume the road I must take in order to obtain that goal and I accept/am aware that there this comes with a cost. I observe /estimate whether/ if what I want is attainable or not. I check if what I obtain is good for me and the way this affects other

2.I can – I have all/everything I need in order to reach my goal. I know it sounds strange/uncanny but we call those: resources. You know, that positive “stuff”/those positive things which sometimes are lurking inside us. They have functioned, they are still functioning. It is just that maybe we are not aware or maybe we just do not think that we could use them in another/a new way, too.

3.I do – I act in order to reach my goal. How? Easy: I have the project, I have the “means”, I have the will and I start to patiently build he road, sometimes with some adjustments along the way. I sometimes meet some obstacles but I see them, I learn about and from them and I start to remove them. I celebrate and I congratulate myself for each and every step, no matter how small, on my road.