Finding a needle in a haystack.
Posted on March 25, 2015 by Chris Mott, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.
Are you debating whether to use the internet to find your soulmate? Well the debate ends here, read on and ride the social media wave to romance.
Finding a needle in a haystack
When I started dating after my divorce approximately two decades ago, I was lost. I had been married for 13 years and felt like I needed to dust the cobwebs off when it came to my dating expertise and strategy. You know what they say, “Once you learn how to ride a bike you never forget.”
The challenge was, my bike had changed considerably from when I was in my twenties. Fast forward a few decades and I’m now a divorced parent with three small kids in tow. Needless to say, I had very specific requirements when it came to the woman that I wished and desired to meet. My dating criteria which used to consist of “smoking hot and single” needed to be updated to “smoking hot, single, loves kids, accepting of divorce, and the list goes on.” Things just got a more complicated or so I thought.
The truth was, my story was no different than anyone else. We all have our own criteria when it comes to finding a soulmate. We all have our own pond with exactly the right fish which we should be fishing from in order to find the one. The true question was, how do I narrow the ocean of prospective fish down to a very concentrated pond?
In the old days, we would rely on fate, church, or a bar to bring us together. This strategy or lack thereof of old wasn’t going to work. I was a busy guy and my clock for fate to happen was ticking by at a miraculous speed. The answer was technology and the internet was soon to be my best friend. Yes, I was going to use technology to narrow down the field.
Why wouldn’t I use the Internet? The only thing standing in my way was the stigma of Internet dating. At first, people had all kinds of stories and opinions about Internet dating. “You must be desperate to Internet date.” “Internet dating is dangerous.” When in reality, these comments lacked merit and in fact, created a divide where none existed. You were no more desperate than another if you were dating via the Internet. Dating over the Internet was no less safe than meeting a random stranger during a drunken binge in a bar.
I would even argue that the individuals who started to leverage technology in their favor were smarter. They knew that they needed to get specific, streamline the process, and the Internet was their perfect match. Fast forward almost two decades and I’m extremely happy in a romance which originated via social media. Yes, I have the door of diverse opportunity to thank for helping me find the needle in the haystack. – Chris Mott – www.mottivation.com
