ICF Core Competencies
Posted on January 13, 2015 by Michael Hochberg, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
In coaching the essence is the conversation with the client who has a problem. Here is where we demonstrate the competencies .
What is competence?
I have knowledge gained through study and skills that can be used. I have behaviours that SHOW that I am competent .
In coaching the essence is the conversation with the client who has a problem. Here is where we demonstrate the competencies . The end result is that the client has a different perspective and leaves us with a desire to take action.
Everything is based on the competencies.The challenge is to go from listening to ourselves to listening to the client. You must listen to all the things surrounding the client. Help the client see the big picture.
Create the space for the communication to take place. The questions you ask are not coming from your head , they come from your deep need to help the client reach their outcomes.
It is not about me. It is about the clients issues or outcomes.
If the questions are good for the clients agenda you will notice it from the response you get.
You can ask,“Is this resonating with you?”
When we shift the awareness to a new perspective , this is the essence of what we do. It is all about the client.
Along the way we might notice that we can’t hold the space for the client. I can interrupt and with there permission I can give feedback.
If we get stuck in a loop we can just ask permission to stop and then give some feedback.
To stay true to the coaching that we do we must reflect back to the client many times what we hear until the client makes a shift on his own. The awareness is coming from the conscious mind but there is so much more in the sub-conscious mind. Reflecting back can finally help the client to see a new perspective.
We create the awareness for the client so that the client makes a shift in their thinking.
It is not about the doing , it is about the being.
If you get stuck you can ask, “It seems like we are blocked, what is really happening ?”
" Do you really want to tell that story over and over again?"
You want to get to the point where you can ask,“OK what is the NEXT step?” You ask this after you have reflected.
The client can shift their awareness. You should do this if you get stuck in a loop.
You must be 100% with your client and 100% for their agenda. We must stay with the client and be with them and be a mirror and be nothing else when we listen .
We must practice , practice , practice.
Core Competencies
A. Setting the Foundation
1. Meeting Ethical Guidelines and Professional Standards
2. Establishing the Coaching Agreement
B. Co-creating the Relationship
3. Establishing Trust and Intimacy with the Client
4. Coaching Presence
C. Communicating Effectively
5. Active Listening
6. Powerful Questioning
7. Direct Communication
D. Facilitating Learning and Results
8. Creating Awareness
9. Designing Actions
10. Planning and Goal Setting
11. Managing Progress and ACCOUNTABILITY
