Nine Realizations I Have Learned About Relationships…Yes ALL Types of Relationsh
Posted on November 25, 2014 by Sherina Mayani, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Relationships don't have to be too complicated. We are the ones that create the harmony or disharmony for them. Find out about this 9 realizations.
If this title piqued your attention, it is because you want to have better and harmonious relationships in your life. There may be someone in your life that upsets you or you are trying to break free from certain people. Whatever it is, you have come to the right place. It can be quite draining to take care of every relationship we have, which is why I want to share with you nine realizations I have had through the years that have allowed me to be at peace with everyone, including myself:
1. Realize that you have attracted everyone in your life.
It is probably what you do not want to hear, but everyone in your life right now is your creation. Your vibration brought them in. This is true for everyone, including your family, friends, acquaintances, and co-workers.
2. Realize that you can learn from everyone.
It can be knowledge from the cashier at the supermarket or a person who chats with you while waiting in line at Starbucks! It is amazing when we realize this. With this knowledge, you will always be aware and looking for more things to learn and grow from. You will look forward to meeting and interacting with people and it will be more joyous.
3. Realize that YOU have control over your emotions and feelings.
Many times we can be stuck and codependent on other people’s feelings. I remember when my emotions would mirror a friend or family member’s emotion. After a while, I realized that I have control over my feelings, and I did not have to take upon the feelings of other people. I can assist, support, inspire and motivate people, but I cannot take over their feelings.
4. Realize that you cannot keep everyone happy.
This realization is the most powerful one of all. If you were to try to make everyone around you happy, you will spend more than a lifetime doing so. Trying to do this can be extremely draining. The most interesting part of this is that you really have no control over people’s happiness. Maybe you can influence them, but it is up to them to choose happiness. I have learned that the best thing we can do is to keep the most important person happy – ourselves.
5. Realize that you can love and forgive people from a distance.
You do not have to be with people that are not supporting you. You can love people from a distance. Sometimes, in certain relationships, distance can be very healthy and key for success.
6. Realize that relationships are mirrors – They reflect important things of us.
This is such an important perspective to have. We can learn so much from people. They are in our life for a reason and we have something about them in ourselves too. Some key relationships are mirrors that reflect many things to us. If you want to grow and mature faster, my advice is to see relationships as mirrors and grow from there. You will be amazed about how much you will learn!
7. Realize that what you admire and love in other people exists in you.
I know all of us have a certain role model or a person we really admire. When you think about the qualities of this person, you admire them because these qualities are in you as well. They might not be developed yet, but they are inside of you. Take this insight to realize this and grow the amazing potential hidden inside of you.
8. Realize what upsets you about other people exists in you as well.
This might not be what you would like to hear, but it is true. If we get upset with someone, it is something that also exists in us. It is life showing this to us. Next time you feel annoyed by someone, pause, breathe, relax and think about how this exists in you. Once you understand that concept, those annoyances will dissipate. Eventually, acknowledging the annoying habits will change your feelings and you will be able to change your behavior for the better.
9. Realize that you have the power to choose the relationships in your life.
At first, it might not seem this way but it is true. You choose whom to talk to, spend time with, play with, work with and even marry! You make the ultimate choice. Be conscious of your choices to enable you to make better relationship choices. Keep in mind your purpose and desires, and choose to be with people who are aligned with that. That will take you where it is you want to go!
My hope is that you take these realizations to heart and acknowledge them to help you have more peace with relationships in your life!
Remember that we are here for a reason and so are the people in our life. When we become aware of this and acknowledge this, we grow. We become grateful and we live in gratitude because we know that everything is for our benefit. When you switch to this mindset, your whole world changes. You automatically become happier and you live in a state of bliss and gratitude because you have this strong knowingness inside of you that it is for the best and it is to your advantage. Never will you let anything or anyone let you down. Rather, you will be grateful and bless them because deep down you know it is a blessing.
