Get To Know Me.

Posted on September 17, 2014 by Derek Lovell, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

I have always been a dreamer since as far back as I can remember. I dreamt big and wanted so badly to be successful. I spent a good portion of my life looking into the future and being unsatisfied with where I was, and how long it was going to take me to get to where I wanted to go. I worked 2 jobs to enable me to start my own business and buy a house. I “needed” to be financially secure, I “needed” to be “successful” and I would sacrifice anything that got in my way. 2 years after committing to these goals, I was a proud home owner and was doing well selling Real Estate as a Realtor. Soon after, I also launched an Interior Design business as I had always been passionate about creating spaces that people felt inspired by. I was financially secure and I was successful in my fields of work. I spent years looking forward to this point, not being present in the moments leading up to these triumphs, but inevitably I came to a point where I felt more empty than ever. I had spent my earlier years unhappy and judging my place in life in hopes that it would all be better once I “made” it, just to get there and still felt incomplete.

Something needed to change and it had nothing to do with my job, income or anything outside of myself. It all had to do with my goals, belief systems and expectations I had placed on myself. I left Real Estate, sold my house, let go of my interior design business and focused on what was going to bring me peace and enjoyment, rather than money and egoic bragging rights. Now, this didn’t happen overnight, it was a long process of getting to know myself and coming to an understanding of where my goals were truly coming from.

I realized that I had always gotten the most fulfillment out of building relationships, helping others and growing as an individual. My path changed drastically from a young man, wrapped up in money, success and ego based social scenes to wanting a healthy and conscious, balanced lifestyle.

Learning never ends and growing never ends. When we feel that we have grown and learnt all there is to learn, we can not progress into our full potential. Happiness is not a destination, it is a feeling, feel that moment and enjoy it. Uncomfort or pain is not permanent either, feel that and trust that you’re feeling it for a higher purpose. Everything I do now is with intent and thought. I believe that you can not grow and move forward without being uncomfortable in life. Now when I feel uncomfortable, I have gratitude for that feeling, I don’t feel the need to escape it or to wish for something else. I trust that the universe is always taking care of us and giving us just what we need in that moment. I have done a lot of work on myself and continue to challenge myself and assist others to be the best that we can be.