Self Worth & Romantic Love
Posted on August 26, 2014 by Coach Rori, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Have worked with so many women from all walks of life, I have come to realize.....
Having worked with women from all walks of life, I have come to realize that all woman can make tragic mistakes in the “romantic love” department. So what makes a good woman stay with a bad man? I can honestly say that the best response I have ever heard to this question came from a client of mine and she
opened her heart and transparently reflected back on the details of her “bad relationship” she said, “The man you choose to be with is a reflection of your self-esteem at that time. I was like Wow!
relationships is a mirror of your heart…
What you believe in yourself it will show up in your most intimate relationships. You teach people who you are by what you allow in your life. You take part in relationships that reinforce your view of yourself. When your true self expands, your relationship will reflect positive change. And if it doesn’t then he’s not your man because if you change for the better and he does not then like I said “he’s not your man.” Change starts with you. A woman who values herself will not remain in a relationship that continually assaults her worth. These kinds of relationships may be from your own fears because you keep choosing these “bad” relationships that reinforce your loving heart.
God’s love inspires self-love…
I don’t know one strong, loving father on this earth who would tolerate his daughter being mistreated or abused. Like I said, a “loving father”…. I can’t think of not one. God IS love, we are God’s daughters so, multiply the love of an earthly, loving father times infinity and you still don’t get close to the love God has for us. The way you allow a man to treat you is a reflection of your understanding of God’s love for you. It is also a reflection of the way you love yourself. You betray the truth of your own heart when you blindly follow a man who has repeatedly proven that he can not handle the gift of your unconditional love. Remember, you have a choice. You are not a helpless victim and you have much more power than you think.
Self-worth and romantic love
What shows up in our romantic lives is a direct reflection of our beliefs. In the past, I dated men who made me feel as if they were doing me a favor, men who gave me emotional crumbs when my heart deserved a full “happy” meal, and men who I felt I had to prove my love over and over. I have been a “for now" woman and a “booty-call.” I have been the woman who would allow men to get away with too much, give too little and leave me wondering what in the world just happened!? And what did I do wrong? NOTHING!!! The greatest gift a woman brings to the table is the beauty, joy and openness of her heart. When our hearts begin to harden and full of pain from disappointment, rejection, and suffering, we are losing the only real thing we have and that’s our hearts. Ladies, make sure a man is worthy of your loving heart.
The Right Man vs. The Wrong Man
You can tell him your dreams and fears without the fear of rejection. You can be your true self in his presence. He is loving, truthful, honest, faithful and kind. His heart is capable of growing and learning with yours. And he will understand there will be some hard times, so he will be available to your emotional needs. So many women settle for “less than” meaning “The Wrong Man” when your heart yearns for more. You will reach a place in your life where you think too highly of yourself. So wait for one who would vow to love you for life. You will reach a place in your life where you refuse to downplay your voice, and he will “see” YOU and celebrate the woman who you are. You have to get to the place of self-love within your own relationship where you know you deserve more from your man, so call him out and hold him accountable to his word and inspire him to rise up and be the man he promised to be. When you feel real love, safe, cherished and celebrated, your soul can flourish and your spirit thrives in his love where you want to give him all of YOU! You deserve nothing less. You are worthy!
