Be True to Yourself - Be Authentic!
Posted on July 10, 2014 by Margo Kirtikar PhD, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
We can fool some people some of the time. We can fool most people most of the time. But we can never fool all the people all the time.
There’s an old well known saying that is quoted often, I don’t remember who the author of this quote is but here it is for you to think about. If you happen to know the author please tell me.
We can fool some people some of the time
We can fool most people most of the time
But we can never fool all the people all the time.
Develop the habit of being authentic, believe me, in the long run, it pays and works to your advantage and benefit. It does not pay to be false, to pretend you are what you are not, to put on act of having false virtues. It smells of insincerity. Sooner or later this mask is bound to drop and you will be revealed for the fraud that you are. You’ll be branded as a liar and a hypocrite! You must never underestimate peoples’ intelligence and sense of intuition. Putting on a show to impress a girlfriend, a boyfriend, an employer, a neighbour or a business partner, is the wrong foundation to build up a solid and healthy relationship. It will not stand the test of time and is bound to crumble under stressful situations. Other than that, putting on a mask for the world at large is a terrible drain on your energy. The stress is unbearable and will wear you down.
Some people go so far as to change their name, deny their background and family, make up a false identity, anything to appear different in order to be accepted into a certain group socially. Sooner or later it catches up with them and they have to then take the sad consequences when they are exposed and time will expose them, be sure of that. The strain of the lie is too heavy. I am sure you have, just as I have, met someone in your life who is so fake, it is pathetic to watch. It is embarrassing to watch someone who pretends so hard to be what one is not, who is not open or honest about their background or experiences in life afraid of saying something that would give their secret away. For me personally, it is a waste of my time to deal with anyone who is not honest, authentic and sincere. How do I know this? I guess you can call it intuition. When you practice being in touch with yourself you will feel it too when someone around you is false.
Be yourself, be natural, accept yourself for what you are, be who you are. Real people of high calibre will not hold this against you. Be in control of your emotions. If you have anything in your background at all that is let’s say, a little seedy or unacceptable, it’s much better to be open and honest about it when confronted. I do not mean you have to advertise it, but if confronted then it’s better to be honest. It will speak for you. Honesty always does. People of quality will admire your honesty. And if you have moved on to improve yourself, they will respect you all the more. Those who might hold it against you, you don’t want to know because they are not worth knowing anyway.
Your past, your background, undesirable relatives, faults and mistakes you have committed in the past are not who YOU are today. It is who you are NOW that counts. It is WHAT you do now that counts. It is what you BELIEVE in now that counts. No one is perfect in this world. You can always minimize your vices and maximize your virtues. That is what life is about. Use your assets and make an effort to minimize your liabilities. Some might have more advantage than others from birth, but that in itself does not make them better, they too have their crosses to bear and paths to go.
Focus on yourself, be yourself and make the most of yourself in your unique way, in an honest and authentic manner. You are very lucky to be living in a time when this is well possible and opportunities are plenty out there. Stay awake so that you recognize the opportunities that pass your way. It happens more often than you think and you need to grab the opportunity, with both faith and confidence.
There’s a short ancient tale that I would like to tell you to serve as a good reminder that no one is perfect.
A man planted a rose. He watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it. He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but he also noticed thorns upon the stem. He thought, ‘How can a beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?’ Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom… it died. So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects. We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them. This is one of the characteristic of love… to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life… all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the ‘rose’ within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
Margo Kirtikar PhD in the Science of Metaphysics / spiritual teacher and life coach.
