How do you attempt to repair a hurt in your relationship?

Posted on June 28, 2014 by Stephanie Parejamaas, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

How do you attempt to repair a hurt in your relationship?
Here are some suggestions:
• A hug….goes a really long way. Have you ever noticed that when you are angry with someone, you want to pull away? Resist that urge and touch. It will keep you connected and possibly even calm any upset nerves.
• A smile… can be contagious. It takes a lot of effort to resist smiling back at someone. It’s hard to stay mad while you smile.
• Use humor… who doesn’t love a good joke?
• A special look… you know that look that you can give that pleads “don’t be mad?” Use it my friend… use it.
• Apologize… Sometimes we get confused and think that if we apologize, it means we agree or think that we did something wrong… when it really just means “I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
• Validate… Again… this does not mean you agree with what is being said, just that you understand that the person is hurting… and that sucks.
• Plan a special outing… Think of something that will let the hurt party know that you do think they are special and that you want to spend quality time with them.
• Make a favorite dish… food can be a great way to say “I know what you like and you are special to me and I want to make your tummy happy and I don’t want you to be angry with me anymore.”
• Write them a note… words can hurt… words can heal. Use this note to say something new and kind that you have never told this person before. Let the healing begin!
• Listen… one of the most powerful acts you can ever do for another person.

By Stephanie Parejamaas
Life Coach