Men Are Like Parking Spaces: All The Good Ones Are Taken
Posted on December 15, 2009 by Hadley Earabino, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.
An example of how our thoughts create our reality.
A client of mine once said, ”Men are like parking spaces, all the good ones are taken.” On the other hand, I’ve heard some of my more bubbly clients say, “It’s raining men,” while they try to fight off three suitors at once. What is the difference between these two scenarios? One woman lives in scarcity and one lives in abundance. This is a great example of how we create our own realities.
As a coach, I ask, “Is it true that there are no good men out there?”
“Yes,” she says, “It’s absolutely true.”
“Okay,” I say, “How do you react when you think that thought?”
“I get angry and frustrated, and want to pull the covers over my head.”
“Okay,” I say, “How do you treat others when you think that thought?”
“I am suspicious of men. I think they are all either married, gay or so workaholic that they’d never have time for me. I stay home, and watch Lifetime movies.”
“So,” I say, “Thinking the thought “there are no good men out there,” makes you pull the covers over your head, and stay home to watch Lifetime. Can you see how doing that activity every Saturday might limit your chances of meeting a good guy?”
“Yes. I guess so.”
“So who would you be without that thought?” I ask.
“I would be free. I would be able to go out with a more optimistic outlook. I would be more hopeful.”
“Exactly,” I say. “So let’s turn this around.”
“Okay.”
“Which feels more true to you. ‘1. Men are like parking spaces: all the good ones are taken.’ or ‘. My thoughts are like parking spaces: all the good ones are taken.’ ?”
“My thoughts ARE like parking spaces!” my friend said. “And they’re all taken up by negative thoughts! I’m not leaving any room for positive thoughts.”
Exactly. The truth always sets you free.
