How I Added Fun Back To My Life

Posted on April 28, 2014 by Filomena Iorio-Tasoluk, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.

Did you ever find yourself with so much, yet it was a tasteless point? You would think when I was a Stress Eater, it would have made me an expert in taste but it did not. Yes, at that time in my life I could not taste. Not only did I want to taste food but other things as well. When I think about taste, I think about food, experiences, relationships, satisfaction. When I taste something that awakens my palate, I think about all the sensations (good and bad) I’m experiencing at that one moment. At one point, my life was void of taste. I was continually disappointed by the taste in everything. The food I ate, the relationships I had, the events I experienced on a daily basis – everything was flavorless. The fact that everything was flavorless in my life was actually worse than if it were bitter. If the experiences, relationships and food were bitter it would at least have given me the motivation to change my environment. So, I was in a bit of a predicament. My life was tasteless and I had zero motivation to shift it.

“The view from rock bottom is often the reason, the inspiration, for getting back up”. – Unknown

I started to think about my life 10, 20, 30 years down the road. What I realized was if I were to continue to live like this and reach 50, 60 years of age, I would have serious regrets. I never wanted to be that person who would look back at their life and say, “I wish I did this…I wish I could have done that…” My entire life I always looked forward to the future. Even as a child, I was always curious as to what kind of a person I would be age of 20 and looked forward to it. When I reached 20, I was curious as to what kind of a person I would be at 30 and looked forward to it. This was the first time where I thought about what I kind of person I’d be at 40 and felt hesitation, anxiety and complete regret. When there is nothing to look forward to, why is it necessary to change? That’s when the anger set in…

People say don’t get angry because it only hurts you in the end. Anger was the best thing that I could have ever experienced – it accelerated hitting rock bottom. The anger within gave me the energy to do something.

I wanted to savor every moment; I wanted to eat it all up. I wanted to experience food, my children growing up, my relationships and, more importantly, MY LIFE. Up until that point, I thought I was, or at least, I was trying but in reality, I wasn’t. I only felt sorry for myself and allowed the oppressor within to dictate my life.

So, I’m sure by now you’re wondering how did I add flavor back to my life?

I REALIZED I HAD THE ABILITY TO CREATE MY OWN REALITY.

The reason why my life was tasteless was because I was living my life as an observer…an outsider. When you’re looking from the outside in, it’s impossible to live in the present without comparing it to other people’s lives or situations.

I had to be honest with myself. What did I want out of life? Not what was expected of me or what was everyone else doing. What did I want?

Quite simply, all I wanted was to taste. And in order to truly experience all the flavors something has to offer, you must use all your senses and you must be completely present. Living in the present allowed me to understand what I wanted out of life. Once I learned what I truly wanted I could make decisions with clarity and confidence

It’s so much easier to zone out and daydream about could haves or should haves. It’s a lot easier to look at other people’s lives and create stories about how much better they have it. Once you realize you have the ability to create your own reality, you’ll start looking at your life differently. You will enjoy each moment and if you don’t, you will be open to trying something new. You will see opportunities you never knew existed. You will be grateful for people, things and experiences and, more importantly, discover all the flavors in your life. It presents things you’ve been trying to avoid and allows you to make decisions you would normally be afraid to.

By creating your own reality, you are living each moment with undivided attention, your sense of awareness is heightened and through this you gain curiosity, clarity and confidence to triumph in life.