How to Create Positive Change in Your Life or Your Career

Posted on March 14, 2014 by Julie Jones Hamilton, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.

We often find ourselves in situations that we really want to change. It could be in relationships, in work or even in our self, yet a part of us screams NO. We want to make the change but the pull to the familiar is strong and keeps us stuck. We begin justifying our doubt and fear of what others may say, which begins to influence our thinking. Sometimes we simply hear the voice inside our head say “No, don’t do it”, even when it’s what we would prefer to do.

Change may come in the form of a dissatisfying relationship, a recent move from a home or to another state. It could even be the change of a job to a more suitable, fulfilling career, or even trading an old car for a newer one.

It in those moments we hear the critical voice inside our head saying… “No, stay where you are it might be too hard. Here you know what to expect.” “What if it doesn’t work, what if I don’t find anyone else?” “What if I don’t make enough money?” “What if I am too old or too young?”, “What if…?”

What happens is our internal dialog convinces us to stay where we are, we solider on and trudge through. Our internal thermostat is set on a comfort setting and we allow the fear of change to control our life. The voice says, “NO, don’t do it!” and finds all the reasons in our past experience of why it isn’t a good idea. We begin going over all our past mistakes and justify why we need to stay where we are and so… another week goes by or another month, maybe years and we stay stuck in the same cycle, the same loop over and over, and over again. This becomes our default position even when we know deep down inside there is more.

Well, what if it didn’t have to be this way? What if it could be easy? What if by applying 3-Tips to letting go when everything inside screams, “NO, don’t do it”? Would we then begin to see the fruits of our results in a life we would really love to live, a life lived by design?

Here are three quick, simple tool to consider,

1-Tip, Become Clear.
Before we begin, we need to know what it is we would love to change. So we begin by asking a question. “What is it I would really love?”

What kind of relationships would you love to be in? What would you feel like being in this perfect relationship? What are the qualities? What would be your perfect career or vocation? What would it look like to you? What would you be doing? What is your description of perfect health? What would you love your health to look like? Would you be vibrant with energy, would you be strong and tone? What about your time/freedom/money? Where would you go? What would you love your bank account to look like? What would love to be, do have or give in your life?

When we become clear with whatever it is we really would love to experience in our life we are able to make confident and precise decisions and choices. We no longer argue with the internal voice of judgment in our head, which say “NO” and we cease asking others what we should do. We learn to let go of the negative talk. The exercise is to write out what we would love to experience in our relationships, our career or vocation, our health and our time/money/freedom. We write it out in the present tense, “I am the person who has…” and we fill in the blanks writing only of the things we love not what we are lacking.

2-Tip, Daily Plan
The first law of learning is repetition. Every day we read out loud what we wrote down on the new vision of what we would love to experience in our life. This will help us to memorize the feeling tone of what we have written. We all have desires and changes we want to make. So, we remind ourselves everyday of who is the person making the choices here. “I am the person who…”

Be still and listen, is it the pull to the familiar voice you are listening to or is it the true desires within your heart? Let go of the thought of what others may think about you, it isn’t your business anyway. It matter’s not what anyone else says because at the end of the day you are your ultimate authority. You are the one with your own unique desires and dreams. It’s up to you to take responsibility of your heart desires and the changes you want to make! Try this for 30 days and read your statement every morning and night.

3-Tip, Supportive Positive Influences
Surround your self with positive influences. We are all here on this planet to help each other. The changes you want to make are for your own growth to be, do, have and give the very best of your self. When you are the best you, you become a beneficial presence not only to yourself but also to others. Look for mentors and partners in believing, others who hope the very best for you and themselves too. Consider the top five people you hang out with. Are they positive and supportive influences? Do they want to see you rise?

When we hang around naysayers and people of negative opinions we end up thinking the same way they do. We attract into our life situations and people of the same nature, negative or positive. You’ve heard the saying, ‘Birds of a feather, flock together’? Let go of the negative influences in your life. Keep an eye out for the positive influences, people who support your growth.
Start making your change by finding people who believe in you and want to see you succeed. Hire a mentor or coach. Look for a role model, someone you admire and ask them to be a partner in believing. You will be surprised at the number of people who will agree to support you.

Surround yourself with winners and those who are living the life you would love to live. This is the quickest way to create a change. Learn from role models and if you don’t know of anyone, haven’t you noticed yet? People are everywhere, get out there and find one.

The Change You Seek
The change you seek starts right where you are, with what you have. It occurs in baby steps. Your willingness to change and let go of being stuck in the pull of the familiar, which no longer serves you, will create a space that makes welcome the change of a freer, expansive and fulfilling life.

This is your life we are talking about and it depends on your willingness to accept change and create your desires. You deserve to live a life you love, so build your muscles in faith and confidence and allow the changes to occur in your life one step at a time.