Why Looking For Your Soul Mate Doesn't Work
Posted on March 12, 2014 by Armine Chitjian, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
If you've heard advice like, "Love comes when you least expect it" and "You will find love when you stop looking for it", you want to read this...
This is very simple. When you are looking for something, you are still believing that you do not already have it. Looking for something you do not have is not a fun and relaxed process, and tends to cause tension around the topic. It feels like a hunt- and sometimes feels like looking for a needle in a haystack. Having to look for love is really not in your best interest. To feel like you are on a mission cannot lead you to be content nor lead you to the end result you are wanting.
If you want love, follow this simple approach. Instead of looking for your soul mate, you are to create that feeling of already having that mate. Go about your day without the sense of feeling on a hunt, wondering where you’re going tonight to search for your lover or having to go to another bar to make sure you are “putting yourself out there”. Do everything you normally do, except knowing in your heart that your soul mate is already there and he/she is not missing at all. Just by doing what you do on a regular basis (work, school, hobbies, etc.) and maintaining that feeling of fullness in your heart, your soul mate is coming to you. The better you feel about already having it and the steadier you hold that state of being, the quicker your paths cross.
It’s not that love comes when you least expect it… it comes when you release the tension around it. When you’re “expecting” it in the way that the word is used commonly, it is from a place of not yet having it. When you know it’s there, you expect it happily and naturally. When you stop looking for love because you already know it’s coming, it has to come. Did you know it’s that simple?
