How to Be a Conduit to Allow More Love: Learning to Forgive and Forgive Well
Posted on March 10, 2014 by Julie Jones Hamilton, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
To transform our life we must open up to loves presence and allow a deeper understanding and compassion. In doing so we learn art of forgiveness.
“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love." -Bryant H.McGill
Understanding that we are each on different levels of our own evolution in life, we recognize that we all are on a journey in an upward spiral of our next becoming. At times, we may seem to be unskilled and stumble along in relationships. The way to transform our life and to be a conduit to love’s presence is to open our heart to compassion. To do this we must learn the ways of forgiveness – to forgive and forgive well.
As we lean into this practice we let go of our own mistakes and view them as learning. In doing so we can then apply compassion and forgiveness to the unskilled mistakes of others and of ourselves.
Personally, I carried years of bitterness and resentment over the divorce from the father of my two daughters. Even though, I remarried a wonderful new man who was a terrific husband and supportive father to my girls, I was still filled with a toxic resentment. This prevented me from living fully. I was living a muted version of life. It was when I finally decided to release the pain, once-and-for-all and to let go and forgive. When I did the entire relationship with my first husband shifted and the relationship my daughters had with their father blossomed and grew. Today, we honor the fact that from this union two beautiful women were born. Both are married with families of their own. We now share in the joy of a blended family during holidays and celebrating special occasions and also on the baseball fields with our grandsons.
I did not make this happen, however, I did make this welcome. I gave up one perception for a higher perception, which comes when we are able to forgive. In doing so, we become a clear conduit for love’s presence. It is in giving that we receive. Forgiving is a “giving for”, or giving to ourselves. In “giving for”, we transform a perception that would create bitterness, anger, resentment or un-peace in our hearts, into a higher perception of allowing. We allow a “do-over” of the energies that are constricting to the body and spirit and we let go and release the pain, which then begin to move our mind, heart and thoughts toward the truth. Truth… meaning we are all spiritual beings having a human experience doing the best we know how in any given moment. This perception has the potential to change our life, the energy in our body and the relationships of our past.
Forgiving is a daily practice and we all have forgiveness work to do even if we think we may not. Our past is long and deep and there are corners where negative “thug-thoughts” hide in.
I encourage you to do a daily exercise asking the Divine or your higher Self, “Who or what would you have me forgive today?” Then listen and write down what comes to mind. Forgiveness is an action. And guess what? When you forgive, your heart grows bigger and you become a conduit to allow more Love into your life!
